Do I have a right to be annoyed?

LegacyUser

Hi all, just want a little advice on how I should handle this. Three years ago I moved into a flat with one of my mates, everything going grand for a year or so. Then unfortunately my mate lost his job and decided to emigrate. I decided to stay in in the apartment and with the landlords permission got a stranger to move in with me. Everything went well for the first few months but now the household has run into problems, or at least I think its a problem.

Since my mate moved out all the utilities have been changed to my name. This would be something I don't mind generally as I always have enough "float" in my account for emergencies. However my flatmate has now been slipping into arrears on the bill payments and not transferring the money on rent day as agreed. Twice she has let it go three months before catching up with bill payments and I am becoming wearisome of this. She has to be repeatedly reminded to pay up, which is something I find embarrassing.

I'll be honest, I'm not great with remembering to pay the bills myself so they all come out direct debit from my account. Often I'd forget what bill is due what month - but when the bill would come in the post it would be a reminder for me. However I've been noticing some of the bills not being delivered. I had put this down to an post or perhaps my type of account or whatever but yesterday I noticed one of the bills scrunched up in a ball in the bottom of the bin when I was emptying it. I was very annoyed because the bill in in my name alone and my post was opened and discarded without my knowledge. This issue has come to a head for me now, so do I have a right to be annoyed? and how should I broach the conversation?

Miss Fluff

problemwithflat wrote: »

I had put this down to an post or perhaps my type of account or whatever but yesterday I noticed one of the bills scrunched up in a ball in the bottom of the bin when I was emptying it. I was very annoyed because the bill in in my name alone and my post was opened and discarded without my knowledge.

:eek: What kind of thundering knacker is she? Opening someone else's post is unforgivable, regardless of it being a bill or not.

Did she pay a deposit? If so talk to your landlord and give her a month's notice. You shouldn't have to go chasing for bill money.

If you want to give her one last chance (I wouldn't) then tell her she needs to cough up her share on the day the bills are due and if unable to comply when she'll have to find somewhere else to live.

I get a text and email reminder re my direct debits, don't have paper bills as they are too easily lost/ignored or in your case opened!

CarMe

What a horrible b!tch! It's illegal to open someone else's post! Is get straight onto the landlord and give her a months notice OR sit down with her and say you've found the bills. She must be in some sort of financial trouble but that's no excuse. When I house shared I was 19-22 and terrible with money, I used to dread getting the bill text off my housemate but I'd never leave them stuck, I'd have left myself without busfairs and just walked instead. On the very odd occasion I'd get the text on say a Tuesday and wouldn't get paid till the Thursday so would be totally honest with my housemate and give it first thing Thursday. Thankfully I'm a lot wiser now but you should not have to put up with this!