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Can we keep being friends?

  • 02-10-2011 10:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    To start with, me and my friend are both 18 and I'm gay and she doesn't know what she is. I liked her for ages and ages and we had a really close friendship. Then we decided to actually be together properly but it didn't work because keeping the relationship secret in school was too hard. On top of that, she made minimal effort to come talk to me during the day even though she was like the highlight of my day and I made a huge effort to go talk to her. She said I was too sensitive for her and got hurt too easily and she couldn't deal with guilt. Fair enough, I know I'm quite demanding but still she made no effort at all to keep that relationship going. Anywho now she still wants to be friends but I'm not sure. I hate being the desperate one and I hate that she doesn't seem nearly as upset as I am. She exhausts me and always makes me sad. I don't want to lose her because I still like her even as a friend, but I feel like she's using up too much of my energy. What do I do?


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think you need to step back, even if just for a while, to come to terms with the relationship not working and to get over any romantic interest in her.

    If you are finding her exhausting and she makes you sad, then it's really not healthy to keep puting yourself through that. It's hard to go from a relationship back to friends again and I think it's virtually impossible to be friends unless neither of you have any romantic feelings for the other...and tbh, she sounds like a head-messer who doesn't really know what they want.

    All the best you. :cool:


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