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Missing a friend :(

  • 02-10-2011 6:00pm
    #1
    vince1980
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭


    lately..ive been feeling pretty lonely and down...even tho i have lots of friends both male and female..i lost touch with a friend who was pretty much my world for the last 2/3 years.. Kinda feel my world is empty.
    i feel they can never be replaced

    Has anyone lost touch with that someone who meant everything to them ?

    Is time really a healer ?


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  • #2
    MS.ing
    Closed Accounts Posts: 680 ✭✭✭MS.ing


    get in touch with them if you can or move on and forget if they are 'gone'
    its up to you, you say you have lots of friends, well maybe you need some more like the one you lost, if so, go and find them

    and yes time is a healer, especially for things like this :)


  • #3
    gmac102
    Closed Accounts Posts: 169 ✭✭gmac102


    vince1980 wrote: »
    lately..ive been feeling pretty lonely and down...even tho i have lots of friends both male and female..i lost touch with a friend who was pretty much my world for the last 2/3 years.. Kinda feel my world is empty.
    i feel they can never be replaced

    Has anyone lost touch with that someone who meant everything to them ?

    Is time really a healer ?

    yes, he was my friend for years, my bf for a bit. I miss my friend. So much so that I nearly emailed him today! It comes and goes!!

    I hope time is a healer :confused:


  • #4
    vince1980
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭vince1980


    we worked together for years and just became really close mates...confided in each other. always there for each other. i miss her alot and i think about her every day. she has a family so i know her time is devoted to them which of course is a priorty..she moved jobs a few weeks ago. i texted her..she never texts back. is that amazing to me a friend that i have no confidence around her. almost afraid to say anything

    its hard when a close mate leaves work.....im finding it heartbreaking


  • #5
    Mister Dread
    Closed Accounts Posts: 382 ✭✭Mister Dread


    My take on it.

    You don't miss her as a friend, you are in love with her. She knows this and this why she backs away from contact as she has her family. Would you have the same sense of longing if it was a make friend of yours?


  • #6
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Hey there OP,

    I've merged the thread you created here with the duplicate thread you created in Relationship Issues. Please don't post multiple times about the same topic.

    Many thanks. :cool:


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  • #7
    karaokeman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,328 ✭✭✭karaokeman


    I've gone to college now and I've lost contact with pretty much all my friends since secondary school barr the two I only really got to know in 6th year.

    And yes these people were the world to me, we did everything together, talked about everything together, had dreams about travelling the world but then in a blink of an eye the Leaving Cert sets us apart on our own journeys.

    I guess you could say time is a healer, just be patient. Your friend will eventually realise that she misses you too and try to get back in contact.

    Sometimes even best friends need space from one another. It can take months or even longer but sometimes the distance makes things better.

    Absence makes the heart grow fond, always remember that;).


  • #8
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    It's a pity when that happens, and it's a tough lesson about life - friends drift, people come and go. It must be especially difficult when your efforts to maintain contact is so seemingly one-sided, I'm sure that stings a bit.

    But yes, time helps a lot. Just make sure you're filling your life with things you enjoy and meeting new people, inevitably new people will replace the old.


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hmmm..the things you have descriibed in the first post and your second one...well it sounds to me like you feel a little more than just friendship for this girl. It sounds like you have feelings for her. Very strong ones. In fact it sounds like you are in love with her and completley and utterly in awe of her. The way you say she was so amazing you didnt have confidence around her etc. Well if she has copped on to the fact that you have feelings for her, and she is in a relationship and has a family of her own, then in my opinion this is why she isnt responding to your calls or texts. And just say that you were 'just friends', well if you didnt have an argument or fall out over something and the bond between you was as strong as you describe, then why wouldnt she be replying to your attempts at contact? It just doesnt make sense imo. But time is most definatley a healer., and with that said, i hope you feel better soon.


  • #10
    vince1980
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭vince1980


    Mister Dread wrote: »
    My take on it.

    You don't miss her as a friend, you are in love with her. She knows this and this why she backs away from contact as she has her family. Would you have the same sense of longing if it was a make friend of yours?

    hey,

    i wouldnt be in love with her..i care about her alot. love her maybe as a sister. it be the same if a male friend left. the person u always chill with leaves. i dont expect everyday contact..every now and then is cool. i respect her setup. i have my own life too with other mates and girls..but friends are important


  • #11
    vince1980
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭vince1980


    Boohooyou wrote: »
    Hmmm..the things you have descriibed in the first post and your second one...well it sounds to me like you feel a little more than just friendship for this girl. It sounds like you have feelings for her. Very strong ones. In fact it sounds like you are in love with her and completley and utterly in awe of her. The way you say she was so amazing you didnt have confidence around her etc. Well if she has copped on to the fact that you have feelings for her, and she is in a relationship and has a family of her own, then in my opinion this is why she isnt responding to your calls or texts. And just say that you were 'just friends', well if you didnt have an argument or fall out over something and the bond between you was as strong as you describe, then why wouldnt she be replying to your attempts at contact? It just doesnt make sense imo. But time is most definatley a healer., and with that said, i hope you feel better soon.

    hey

    thks for ur reply...i just found out today she was in hospital for the last while..hence the lack of contact...im not in love with her. shes 7 years older than me. feelings are involved but not to that extent. just miss her alot. talking with her and laughing with i can make her laugh! haha. time will heal i hope..ive never missed anyone before as no friend has had to leave work before. shes just a person i want to be friends forever!


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