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'Friends' when they need you

  • 30-09-2011 1:10pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I've begun to question my relationships with my friends, I'm sick of texting and ringing them to hang out and they are never bothered to text back, and when there is contact made, its followed by a lame excuse.

    They seem to make the effort to contact me when there is a birthday or event, just to make up numbers, most of the socializing revolves around alcohol, i always want to try out new hobbies, sports and interests, but they use the same old excuse of 'No money'.

    I feel like i am being held back and wasting my time, should i pursue new friends?


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  • #2
    SlimCi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 364 ✭✭SlimCi


    Absolutely, move on, and meet nicer people who are interested in you! Join a few clubs etc, it will do wonders for your social life and expand your horizons no end. Good luck:D


  • #3
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    cosso wrote: »
    I've begun to question my relationships with my friends, I'm sick of texting and ringing them to hang out and they are never bothered to text back, and when there is contact made, its followed by a lame excuse.

    They seem to make the effort to contact me when there is a birthday or event, just to make up numbers, most of the socializing revolves around alcohol, i always want to try out new hobbies, sports and interests, but they use the same old excuse of 'No money'.

    I feel like i am being held back and wasting my time, should i pursue new friends?

    Are these same friends around when it is your birthday etc.? When you reach a certain age, friends find partners / have children etc., so that may take up a good portion of their time and money.

    Is it possible that it's just how you're perceiving this? All I'm saying is, sometimes it's not that cut and dry. With regards to contact, I know I don't always have my phone beside me, and even when I do cop I've missed a call or a text I might not be able to return either at that moment. I'm desperate for forgetting to do both of these things, and it's not because I don't give a shit about others, it's more to do with the fact that I'm normally up to my eyes =/

    Have you ever addressed this issue with your friends?


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 15,288 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    If your friends have different interests to you, it's ok to drift away from them towards people with similar interests.

    It doesn't mean you have to stop being friends with them, totally. You can still meet up with them occasionally if/when you are available.

    It is allowed, and indeed acceptable, to have different groups of friends!


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