Personality disorder- where to get help?

LegacyUser

I have known for probably a year now that I have a passive aggressive disorder. When I look at lists of symtoms I tick many of the boxes and also inside myself I've known something wasn't right for a while now.

I want to go to try to get help but haven't a clue where to turn to find a support group or counselling. I've seen there are a lot of private services in expensive locations in Dublin but I am on the dole and scraping by as it is. I do have a medical card but a doctor does not seem (to me at least) like the type of person who can cure this. If anyone has any suggestions of where to turn to seek treatment I'd be very grateful. This is beginning to get me down a lot and I'm really worried it is getting gradually worse so I need to deal with it now before it ruins all the relationships around me, which it slowly is.

LadyMayBelle

See your GP for a referral, so that you can get assessed correctly and possibly get a diagnosis. From there you can be referred to support groups/counselling etc. Yeah it may take a while, but the sooner you do this, the better.

If you don't like your GP, find another.

Just fyi OP, it is more about management than a cure. Chat to your GP first so that you can get a diagnosis and educate yourself a little better, be careful about getting caught up with all the tickbox symptoms.

Good luck x

Ickle Magoo

I think first of all you need to get a proper diagnosis rather than relying on self or internet diagnosis - both of which are notoriously unreliable. If your GP diagnoses a disorder then they will refer you to the appropriate management services.

All the best. :cool:

curlzy

Hey OP, I'm really surprised by your post. I thought part of being passive-aggressive is not owning up to stuff and constantly blaming others so bravo for your self-awareness. I'd say you should get some self-help books on the subject. I doubt it's about getting councelling, more about learning to recognise the behaviour and stop it.

The very best of luck.

qwertytlk

I take it you have a medical card? Go o your gp, he will not be able to 'cure' this but he will refer you to a counsellor or psychatrist who will be able to help you deal with your issues. And just to add, no one can cure this, you will be able to get counselling which will help you to sort out your feelings and deal with your issues which should make you an all round happier person (it did for me anyway!) best of luck with it all.

LegacyUser

OP here- many thanks for the messages of advice and support. Indeed I don't mean to be self-diagnostic but I've known something has been up for a while now and so went looking for what could be up. Reading webpages on passive agressive disorder was like someone shining a light into my personality- really bizarre and a true eye-opener. From research I've done I realise that there are at least three differing strains of this disorder so I feel it is important for me to confront it now as there is some scary stuff in there. I dont think I have a a full blown condition, I see it as mild enough, but there are traits I'm reading about that certainly apply to me.

I had a rough upbringing without a father, was often beaten by my mother. This has now manifested as a distrust of females- I can be friends with them but can never trust them enough to get closer. I also display many other syntoms which I won't go into here.

Will be contacting my GP on Monday to make an app. Hopefully it will work out, I realise there is no cure for this (which is frustrating in itself) but I know I have to do something before my life passes me by and I never really live it substantially.