Can't Move On

LegacyUser

Ok, so my self and my ex got together when we were 14. After a five year relationship she broke up with me. Even though its been three months I still can't move on. We've spoken, twice but only through text. Both time it was just good luck texts as we are both going to college (i'm in 2nd year). I still want to remain friends with her to some degree but ive accepted that she will probably never be a major part of my life.

Everytime I think of her I feel like crap because I still love her so much but she has moved on. I can't imagine her with another guy. If I even think of it i start to panic and can't breathe. (this has never happened to me before in my life) The idea of someone else with their hand on her destroys me. I know I have no right to feel this way but I can't help it.

Since the break up I haven't had any time to recover. I had to work full time through out the summer to afford college fees and no i'm in college and working part time. It's good that I'm keeping busy but I feel under a lot of pressure.

Friends wise I have one friend and two or three half friends that i see once a month roughly. I've gone out plenty of times since then but I haven't even been able to kiss another girl. Even when a girl showed interest in me I told her I had a girl friend. I don't know how to approach girls at all. I'm also a shocking dancer.

I just don't know where to go from here, Ive done all the thing that were suggested to me. I now play football every Monday and Wednesday, work and go to college as well as see my friend at least once a week. I'm really busy but I always think about her. I usually get the urge to text her everyday but resist.

My friends have girlfriends and i'm so jealous. I really wish I knew how to talk to women. Ive only ever kissed/had sex with one person.

any advice would be very much appreciated.

tyview

GoingCrazy1102 wrote: »

Ok, so my self and my ex got together when we were 14. After a five year relationship she broke up with me. Even though its been three months I still can't move on. We've spoken, twice but only through text. Both time it was just good luck texts as we are both going to college (i'm in 2nd year). I still want to remain friends with her to some degree but ive accepted that she will probably never be a major part of my life.

Everytime I think of her I feel like crap because I still love her so much but she has moved on. I can't imagine her with another guy. If I even think of it i start to panic and can't breathe. (this has never happened to me before in my life) The idea of someone else with their hand on her destroys me. I know I have no right to feel this way but I can't help it.

Since the break up I haven't had any time to recover. I had to work full time through out the summer to afford college fees and no i'm in college and working part time. It's good that I'm keeping busy but I feel under a lot of pressure.

Friends wise I have one friend and two or three half friends that i see once a month roughly. I've gone out plenty of times since then but I haven't even been able to kiss another girl. Even when a girl showed interest in me I told her I had a girl friend. I don't know how to approach girls at all. I'm also a shocking dancer.

I just don't know where to go from here, Ive done all the thing that were suggested to me. I now play football every Monday and Wednesday, work and go to college as well as see my friend at least once a week. I'm really busy but I always think about her. I usually get the urge to text her everyday but resist.

My friends have girlfriends and i'm so jealous. I really wish I knew how to talk to women. Ive only ever kissed/had sex with one person.

any advice would be very much appreciated.

Hi,
You were both sooo young to be together for 5 years so this is probably going to take more than the 3 months to get over but you aren't sitting at home wollowing which is great. It is hard to get over a long term relationship, especially your first one. Just take it day by day.... Try and stop thinking about her and try to enjoy this time to yourself. A girl will come along when you least expect her to.

den87

It'll probably take longer than 3 months, me and my gf broke up 2 months ago and only now am i starting to 100% accept it and really try to move on. Its hard to picture her with someone else but these things happen.

Life goes on, everything happens for a reason and you will find someone.

BraziliaNZ

It sucks my friend. All you can do really is ride it out, and don't contact her. In time it will get better, but your first one takes the longest from my experience.