Should I ask him out?

LegacyUser

I met a guy a few months ago. He approached me in a nightclub and we talked for a while. I was quite tipsy and I'm bad with faces at the best of times.
Anyway, I'm not into the whoel nightclub random snog type thing, so I was polite and friendly but ultimately didn't take him up on his offer. He wasn't drinking, was polite and lovely and not groping or handsy which is what usually puts me off about getting chatted up in a club.

He works in a place I frequent often, but in the office part, so I see him but not in a situation where I get to/need to talk to him.

I only know it's him because I was talking to my friend about the cute guy in there who is always gives me weird looks and she pointed out that I had spent ages talking to him. http://b-static.net/vbulletin/images/icons/icon11.gif So I'm not imagining that he looks at me funny because I didn't realise it was the same person. He probably thinks I'm a haughty cow, ignoring him. I'm just blind as a bat without my glasses which I wasn't wearing the night I met him, plus I had my beer goggles on.

Anyway, I was thinking of trying to approach him but obviously am wary of doing so in his workplace but I don't see him out either and weeks and weeks are passing without me getting a chance to chance my arm.

We're both early 30s.

I am a friend

Will i? wrote: »

I I was polite and friendly but ultimately didn't take him up on his offer.

What offer?

LegacyUser

I am a friend wrote: »

What offer?

OP here, well that he was chatting me up and I was having none of it. He asked me for my number after we'd been talking and he offered to walk me to a taxi but I declined on both counts and left with my friends.

I'm not sure if I'm phrasing it right. Basically I knew if I'd reciporcated he'd have kissed me and as I said, I'm not into the whole drunken snogging thing.
Maybe it was just a snog he was after and I'm reading into it too much and would make a fool of myself if I asked him out.

I am a friend

You know what - I think I would... What have you got to lose? Make sure you let us know how it goes

Fittle

I don't think you have anything to lose by asking him out.
As an aside, whats the link in your original post???

Ickle Magoo

I think you have nothing to lose OP - and possibly a bit of fun to be had. :cool:

NB - the link is for the gif of the smilies...

And also - this is an advice forum only, requesting updates to satiate our curiosity/for our own entertainment are not necessary or appropriate.

Cheers

Fittle

sunflower27 wrote: »

Yeah, go for it, nothing to lose.

Fittle - the link is the icon.

oooooooooo I thought it was a link to a picture of the bloke!!

LegacyUser

Op again,

So would it be ok for me to ask him out where he works?
Or would it be inappropriate

Miss Fluff

Personally I think it would be inappropriate but it would very much differ from person to person. How do you propose on asking him out at work exactly? Asking the receptionist to summons him to reception? Waiting outside? Emailing him? It wouldn't sit comfortably with me. Do you have any mutual friends? Have you seen him in the nightclub since?

I am a friend

Does he know your name? Would you be close enough to him to ask him out at work?

How about you give your friend your number to give to him? That takes the pressure off him in his work environment

LegacyUser

op here again. My friend knows him but not well, they grew up in the same place but she wouldn't have his number or anything, she was in school with his older sister so she's familiar with him but thats all.
Haven't seen him out in months, we don't seem to go to the same places. He works in retail but not sure i'd be comfortable with approaching him there. Oh well, if i get a chance i'll take it but it's not looking likely at this stage!

Miss Fluff

If he's in retail that changes things a little. Don't ask him out but you can always strike up a conversation with him and get talking to him that way, him being in a public-facing role gives you a chance to get talking to him for chit-chat and banter

beks101

I say go for it, if you can find a way to catch him outside of work.

From your first rendez-vous I'd say this guy feels he was rejected, with you snubbing his 'offer' and then seemingly blanking him all the times you've seen him since. So maybe when you get a chance to talk to him, explain that you haven't been snubbing him and that you just weren't wearing your glasses that night! (Amount of times I've been in the same situation is unreal so I feel your pain!!)

As others have suggested, try to orchestrate a situation in which you bump into him outside of work, I think it'd be nothing but awkward if you did it in his work place. Best of luck, keep us updated!

LegacyUser

Hi folks, op back again. Well, I saw him out last weekend but he was really really drunk so I stayed away. My friend was over last night and after a bottle of wine, we found him on facebook and I emailed him asking him out. Little bit mortified now and anxiously awaiting a response but sure, all he can do is say now and I get to spend a few weeks avoiding him

Young_gunner

OP again wrote: »

Hi folks, op back again. Well, I saw him out last weekend but he was really really drunk so I stayed away. My friend was over last night and after a bottle of wine, we found him on facebook and I emailed him asking him out. Little bit mortified now and anxiously awaiting a response but sure, all he can do is say now and I get to spend a few weeks avoiding him

fair play ! hope it works out!

dellas1979

Woohoo!!
Good on you - love hearing things like this.
Let us know how you get on.
Hope it works out

LegacyUser

Op again. No response. He'd surely respond, even if it was to say no? Wouldn't he? God, i hate the waiting game.
I don't mind getting a no, but the not knowing is killing me.


I feel like I'm waiting for exam results or something. It's horrible.

Taltos

dellas1979 - PI/RI is not here for our entertainment.
Please refrain from asking OPs for updates. If you have not already done so please review our charter.

Taltos

I am a friend

Maybe he doesn't check Facebook all that often or else maybe, given the time of night, he didn't take it seriously.

Give him a week to reply and then cut your lOsses

LegacyUser

Haven't hear anything since. Oh well.