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stick to my guns or give in??

  • 26-09-2011 11:59am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Right I'm not going to go into the full ins and outs of the situation but myself and my husband are separating. I truthfully dont want this to happen but he is adamant he wants out. We have 3 kids, 10, 9 and 3. We live about 3/4 of an hour away from school and I go back and forward twice a day to drop and collect the kids. I dont work, husband does. He also goes training a few evenings a week. Now that the marriage is definitely ending, we are trying to work out the way we can live. He wants me to move into rented accomodation with my kids and to claim lone parents and then rent allowance. He says he has been speaking to the free legal aid people and that this can be done. This is so I can be closer to the kids school. He would then try to get a room in a house in the general area so the kids can see him when they like.

    This is the thing: I dont think its fair that we have to move from our home, the kids leave their friends from the road, or that we should get rid our dog. He says he wont have any money left if we stay and that he will have to live even further out of dublin than we do now so he'll barely get to see them.

    In my eyes, us separating is going to be very hard on our kids. Hard enough without the above to contend with aswell but he just thinks I'm being difficult. Opinions please!!


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  • #2
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP we are not qualified to offer legal advice.

    All please stay within our charter. Any legal advice, no matter how well intentioned may result in warnings/infractions.

    Taltos


  • #3
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,367 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Unfortunately, two homes are more expensive to pay for than one. It's generally unrealistic for either partner to expect to be able to remain in the family home in the event of split.

    One thing to bear in mind (and I hope this doesn't qualify as legal advice since it's more advice about welfare) is that in order to apply for rent allowance, you must first apply for social housing. While it may not become an issue immediately, depending on where you live this could result in your family having to live in quite an undesirable area.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    OP you need to get yourself some legal advice and sharpish. While people here may be able to offer you anecdotal advice etc you do actually need to talk to a professional in order to find out how best to deal with this.


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