Bit of a weird one.

stemah

Long and short of it.

Mates ex-girlfriend has texted me if a i fancy meeting up for a catch up over a drink. Strange thing is he hasn't been going out with her for almost a year, he is seeing someone else now. What to do. Do i say to him? Would you go? As fas as i know there was no animosity when they broke up but this text has just appeared out of the blue and i'm not sure how to answer it..

beks101

Well do you want to go?

If it was me I'd tell my mate about it and see how he reacts, if there's any discomfort there I'd not do anything. But sounds like he's moved on, maybe he'd be fine.

Reesy

beks101 wrote: »

...If it was me I'd tell my mate about it and see how he reacts, if there's any discomfort there I'd not do anything. But sounds like he's moved on, maybe he'd be fine.

My worry would be that he'd say it's OK and then still be torn up if you get it together with her. When you ask him, look into his eyes. If in doubt, understand that you may be choosing between him & her.

BattleCorp

If you like her, then yep, go meet her. I'd tell my mate though, just to be on the safe side. Like you said, it's been over a year so he shouldn't have a problem.

LegacyUser

I think its a bit sick. Taking a friends leftovers. Almost incestious.

One has to wonder, once she's done with you will she move on to one of your friends?

Pick one of your own.

If I was in your friends position, I'd be a bit more than uncomfortable about it. That's my opinion.

stemah

deligar own wrote: »

I think its a bit sick. Taking a friends leftovers. Almost incestious.

One has to wonder, once she's done with you will she move on to one of your friends?

Pick one of your own.

If I was in your friends position, I'd be a bit more than uncomfortable about it. That's my opinion.

You don't half talk some sh*te, but seeing as you haven't even replied under your own name i will totally disregard it anyway.


All others, thanks for the replies. It has transpired that it was my mate who gave her my number after she asked for it. Bit strange that he never said anything to me about it. Anyways, i have replied to her and we're just chatting as friends just now to test the water. See how it goes.

Wompa1

stemah wrote: »

You don't half talk some sh*te, but seeing as you haven't even replied under your own name i will totally disregard it anyway.


All others, thanks for the replies. It has transpired that it was my mate who gave her my number after she asked for it. Bit strange that he never said anything to me about it. Anyways, i have replied to her and we're just chatting as friends just now to test the water. See how it goes.

If I was you I'd steer clear. Even if he gave it to her when she asked he would have done it to not seem like he's hung up in any way. If you are a true friend you'll give her a miss. There's plenty of other girls who weren't going out with your friends

Sauve

If your friend is ok with it I wouldn't see the problem with you seeing her. If he had a problem with it, surely he'd have let you know by now.