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Both like the same girl...

  • 24-09-2011 12:43am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, basically, myself and one of my best friends like the same girl. He knows I like her and while he hasn't admitted it to me, it is quite obvious that he likes her too.

    I know the general rule is "Bro's before Hoes" and while the very last thing I'd want to do is lose him as a friend, I really like this girl.

    Just for some background, I'm one of those guys who struggles to click with a lot of people, so there are very few girls I could ever imagine myself spending a lot of time just for their company and she is one of them. I'm generally more comfortable keeping to one or two cliques, while my friend is more outgoing, and gets on with everyone.
    This girl, her personality is very similar to mine, and the more we talk, the more I notice that we have so much in common and have many of the same tendencies and habits. When I'm around her, I can't help but feel happy when otherwise I'd be mildly depressive. For the most part, she appears to be the female reincarnation of my personality.

    Anyway, my friend and this girl were part of a school trip a few months ago that I wasn't part of and since this, they have become very friendly and chatty to each other. My friend knows this girl better than me because of the time they spent together on this trip (it was a week-long trip with only 8 people so they all got to know each other very well) and I can't help but feel pangs of jealousy when I see them together.

    This girl isn't what most boys in my year would consider to be that good-looking and she is a bit of a nerd like me as well but there is just something about her that attracts me to both her appearance and her personality.

    I don't want to lose my best friend by making the first move on her and upsetting him but if I don't, I'm afraid he will make the move. The more time I spend with her, the more I like her and the more I think it will hurt seeing them get together if I leave him to make that move.

    HELP?!?


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  • #2
    Kadongy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭Kadongy


    Tell the girl you like her, you think she and your friend might like each other and you dont want to make things messy, ask her how she feels. Then proceed with clean conscience if she likes you and stand aside with dignity if she likes your friend.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Kadongy wrote: »
    Tell the girl you like her, you think she and your friend might like each other and you dont want to make things messy, ask her how she feels. Then proceed with clean conscience if she likes you and stand aside with dignity if she likes your friend.

    That seems like a reasonable approach, but I feel I should talk to my friend about it before actually saying anything to her.

    Also, I think I might just leave it for a bit, and let her get to know me a bit better. Then, I might have that talk with her when I feel she knows both of us well enough to make the decision.


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