Want to be single,NEED HELP

LegacyUser

Well heres my story, im a fella whos with my girlfriend for just over 2 years
i gave everything away for her, my friends (because she hated them) basicly my life

to this day i understood why though cause they were scumbags so i thank her for it
now 2 years later im bored
we do the same thing week in week out, she hates my new friends i know them about 6-7 months, but i refuse to let her have control over who i can and cant be friends with
we fight almost every week
and basicly my heads just melted

heres the problem

can we resolve from this? 2 days ago i told her we need a break i cant handle this

and i do miss her, i do love her to bits, but i also want more out of life
im young and last night i was out with my friend and he brough 2 girls down from donegal, and 1 of them really liked me she basicly was looking for a 1 night stand, and to be honest i was thinking about it, but i said no because i wouldnt like to be cheated on so i wouldnt cheat on her.

So to sum things up

i love her to bits, she could be the one if things work out
but i also kinda want to be single, i miss the feeling and to not worrie what i do when im going out.

and since the break (2days) i told her it could be a week or more depends on me
i need help : i love this girl but i want to be single and free, im on the fence basicly
also she keeps on texting me saying her hearts broken that i mentioned the break to her and all, and i know il give in if i see her in person

should i finish with her? i know it will kill her inside if i do finish with her and i really dont want to hurt her feelings but i cant be with someone if i want to be single even if i love that person
what should i say if i should finish with her?

or should i just stay with her wait it out longer to see if anything improves

Elmidena

Why are you fighting every week? Do you know the root causes? It could be with your frustration of all the same nothing new, or maybe from hers. Try and inject some fun into things, surprise her with a trip to the cinema or something. You need to talk it out, otherwise if you do cut her loose years from now you might regret not at least talking to her.

Fair play on turning down the easy sex; it indicates to me that you're not ready to give up on the relationship so readily. If you explain how you're thinking and feeling to her and what you want out of the relationship where she listens, and then you listen to her you'll know where you stand and know if you have a future together or not. Don't be with her out of habit/not wanting to hurt her though, as in the long run it'll damage your moods more with frustration and you both might be stunting personal growth/happiness.

Her not liking your friends are probably due to immature attitude, jealousy of not being involved if you do things with them without her, or perhaps these new friends are scumbags to her that you don't see (assuming you didn't see old friends as scumbags at the time). I don't agree with her saying who you can and can't be friends with either, so talking about why she feels this way would probably help. Does she have reason to be insecure while you're out? Have you cheated on someone in the past, or has anyone cheated on her? She might just lack esteem. It's bad after a couple of years together but it's not just the partner they've to worry about as a lot of predators out there.

Fingers crossed you find happiness one way or the other OP