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Past haunts me

  • 23-09-2011 4:47pm
    #1
    0_0_0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    Just wondering if theres anyone else out there in the same boat as me.
    I was sexually abused 10 years ago and none of my family know. im just wondering does anyone have any advice? ive suffered with depression, anxiety, nightmares and suicidal thoughts every day and im on anti depressants too. ive tried counselling but i just cant open up. i keep trying and trying to talk to my doc or counsellor about what happened but i literally cant even say it out loud. i can write about it and even wrote my counsellor a letter but never gave it to her. i just cant. i freak out at the thoughts of people finding out. :(

    i have tried to get through this and im making a better life for myself in terms of education and im trying so hard to move on but how can i if i dont talk. i dont think i will ever be able to talk so does that mean i will never heal? :( please if anyone else has ever being in the same situation could they please let me know how they have dealt with things? im really losing faith and feel like he has ruined my past present and future.


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  • #2
    iguana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,917 ✭✭✭✭iguana


    0_0_0 wrote: »
    i dont think i will ever be able to talk so does that mean i will never heal? :(

    Not necessarily, everyone is different and lots of people respond differently to different types of therapy. Plenty of people find a way to move on without going over their pasts. In fact some people prefer to not bring up past issues at all as they find it makes them feel worse. Are you finding the type of counselling you are doing helpful? If not maybe something like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which is more about focussing in dealing with future goals than past issues, would be more helpful to you.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi - I am sorry to hear what you are going through...
    when I read your post I realised that I am in almost the same bat as yourself.....I have been suffering from depression, anxiety, panic attacks and have been put on anti-depressants and have only reccently been able to come to terms in my own mind that what happened HAD actually happened let alone tell another person - I understand what you are going through however I have been lucky enough to be seeing a cousellor at the rape crisis centre...I could not open up to heer for a long time about what had happened but I tried and then one day it just came out and she was/is incredibly supportive and helpful - my advice to you would to get in contact with the rcc - they have telephone counsellors 24/7 on a freephone number and they are a brilliant resource...
    I am still having a hard time dealing with what has happened but having the support - having took the first step has put me on the road to accepting that it has happened and looking forward instead of back -
    give yourself that opportunity and do not go through this alone

    1800 77 88 88 is the freephone number for the Rcc

    I wish you all the best of luck x


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