Can't talk to girls

Wilba

Hi all,

There's this really hot girl in my University class. I talked to her the other week to break the ice and whilst using the normal chit chat but were interrupted as the lecturer walked in. She did appear to be a really decent girl but she still didn't respond too much. Maybe it's because she is a quiet person; shy, etc. but What I like the most about her is the fact she looks like a hard-to-get kind of girl and doesn't give too much away; is level headed and kind of quiet. She's is also from Sweeden and I kind of get the feeling she doesn't have too many friends due to the fact she is an overseas student........I could be wrong.

Like many stories we've all heard, I wish it was that easy to take the conversation further than just chit chat and I even get this while talking to my "girl" associates. Just what is the key for talking to women and do girls really love it that we as men, persist and persist. Girls: what do you like to hear and what do you look forward to in a conversation?

I wouldn't mind going out with this girl as I don't think I'll ever get another chance again but I also want to be realist about the whole ordeal. BTW, I am a Latin American-Australian - hope Scandinavian women don't mind people from other races.

Thanks in advance.

Wilba

Anyone?; or could a Mod move this topic to the Relationship issues section?

karaokeman

Have you joined any clubs or socs yet?

You could be surprised that she ends up joining one you're a member of.

Remember relationships are all about having things in common, so if you are both part of the same group take the first hint from there.

Lets say you join the Drama society and see her at one of the meetings you can start a conversation;
You - "so you like drama too"
Her - "yep love it"
You - "its great for getting to know people"
Her - "tell me about it I've met some of my best friends this way"

If not just ask her for coffee anytime you see her around college on her own.

Taltos

OP - what year are you in in college?
Just wondering if you are a young 18 yr old or a mature student.

Thing is - you maybe need to stop focussing so much on getting into a relationship. Stop letting others reactions upset you so much.

Just focus on relaxing - show how happy and confident in yourself you are - without being SMUG.

Just like you would with any friend show some genuine interest in the other person. If you are just talking to this Swedish woman (or any)_with one objective in mind - well then that will be quite transparent and chances are unknown to yourself you will come off as desperate.

Wilba

Thanks heaps for the input guys. Karaokeman: I wish it would be that easy for me but once I begin a conversation I struggle to keep it flowing and also cannot expand it more than simple yes/no questions.

Taltos, I'm doing postgraduate education so I'm in my early twenties; still in my 20s, I struggle with this sort of stuff. Thing is I'm not pressured by anyone, I feel it is time to get into a formal relationship now and thought if I become a little more agressive then I might get somewhere this time. There ain't many girls like this one where I live.

So you think being more caring might in the long run be perceived by her as a good quality and potentially benefit us both?

Thanks.

karaokeman

Wilba wrote: »

Thanks heaps for the input guys. Karaokeman: I wish it would be that easy for me but once I begin a conversation I struggle to keep it flowing and also cannot expand it more than simple yes/no questions.

Taltos, I'm doing postgraduate education so I'm in my early twenties; still in my 20s, I struggle with this sort of stuff. Thing is I'm not pressured by anyone, I feel it is time to get into a formal relationship now and thought if I become a little more agressive then I might get somewhere this time. There ain't many girls like this one where I live.

So you think being more caring might in the long run be perceived by her as a good quality and potentially benefit us both?

Thanks.

Try and ask questions that are more than yes/no answers. Rather than asking "So are you enjoying college so far?", why not ask "How are you finding this course so far?" that way she can't say yes or no and will give you a better answer whereby you can start a conversation from there.

Don't get more agressive but at the same time don't be too nice to the girls either. Just act normal, talk to everyone and focus on expanding your social circle. When you have lots of friends it will be easier to start a conversation with a girl particularly. It can be awkward just talking to a girl in an attempt to get her interested at first before you try and make friends in general.