Escorts

LegacyUser

I can't stop looking up escorts and massage parlours. I'm newly single after breaking up with a lovely gal that I couldn't look after, and now all I want is some good fun with a woman. No strings. Am I wrong? It feels wrong but at the same time it's all I want and all I can thnk about

discus

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I can't stop looking up escorts and massage parlours. I'm newly single after breaking up with a lovely gal that I couldn't look after, and now all I want is some good fun with a woman. No strings. Am I wrong? It feels wrong but at the same time it's all I want and all I can thnk about

You won't get that fun from an escort mate. You'll just need to find a decent young one out on the town, or get in touch with an ex who's up for a shag. You'll get a shag off an escort, but once 30 mins hits, you need to gtfo....

It's not wrong, but you may have misconceptions about what you'll be getting out of an escort. You're emotional right now, and there is nothing more emotionally vacuous than paying for sex.

zxcvbnm1

discus wrote: »

It's not wrong,

How do you know none of these girls are not being trafifcked?

Oryx

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

How do you know none of these girls are not being trafifcked?

This is not the place for a moral or legal discussion on escorts. All replies should be helpful and relevant to the op's issue.

zxcvbnm1

Oryx wrote: »

This is not the place for a moral or legal discussion on escorts. All replies should be helpful and relevant to the op's issue.

well to be fair the OP did specifically ask if what he is doing is wrong.

I think it's fair to say the morality in getting an escort is a very large contributing factor to the argtument as to whether what he is doing is right or wrong.

To rephrase for the mods - OP - Yes.. I think what you are doing is wrong because there is every likelihood these girls are bing trafficked and therefore it is arguably rape.

Not all escorts are trafficked of course - but the risk still remains.

Ickle Magoo

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zxcvbnm1

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Moralising and hyperbole is not helpful to the OP and ignoring mod warnings is against Boards site rules.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

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With respect, the OP did specifically ask "Am I wrong".

Pointing out the fact that some girls are indeed trafficked is neither moralising nor hyperbole.

The OP could conceivably be having non-consensual sex (a.k.a. rape).

How this fact is deternmined not to be relevant to the OPs query of "Am I wrong" is bizarre in the extreme.

Ickle Magoo

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mikemac

zxcvbnm1, my helpful advice to you is start a thread in Humanities, it's the perfect place for that discussion

Go for it OP, nothing wrong about it.
But if you find it cold, clinical and forgettable, well don't be building up your hopes that's all

Emme

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I can't stop looking up escorts and massage parlours. I'm newly single after breaking up with a lovely gal that I couldn't look after, and now all I want is some good fun with a woman. No strings. Am I wrong? It feels wrong but at the same time it's all I want and all I can thnk about

Why escorts? If you're a fairly average fella just hit the town with some friends, go to Coppers or some other such place, get a few beers in and everything else will take care of itself. No need to waste good beer money on escorts! But do bring balloons and be safe.

whiteblueman

I am not sure why someone can say you would be disappointed with Escorts cos I find that not to be the case.

Yes there are so mingers there and it isn't great but it fulfills a need more so than the hope of picking up a bird in Coppers, when the odds could be slim.

There is better value and choice in England though and some of them are far better than any time on offer with the standard girl in Ireland. That is not just me saying, most of my friends think the same (hence the frequent flights across the pond!!!).

Overall I love them but you need to check their prices and make sure you see a picture of them before hand.

To the moraliser who said "every likelihood these girls are bing trafficked" well they are reading too many papers and watching Primetime too often. In the UK it is half-legal as the cops let it go on with lots or "massage parlours" there. That is hardly the hideout for trafficked women, is it?

(of course there are some who are victims of that, but it could be less than 1%)

Emme

whiteblueman wrote: »

Yes there are so mingers there and it isn't great but it fulfills a need more so than the hope of picking up a bird in Coppers, when the odds could be slim.

I've heard it said that if all else fails and you're not having any luck you'll at least be guaranteed to score in Coppers. If you can't score in Coppers

Overheal

Escorts won't give you the fun you're after. You need a rebound, not an hour with 'the girlfriend experience'

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Overheal wrote: »

Escorts won't give you the fun you're after. You need a rebound, not an hour with 'the girlfriend experience'

Spot on.

Taltos

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Mr. Loverman

Don't listen to the rubbish about the women being "trafficked". The definition of trafficked by the anti-prostitution agencies is "foreign prostitute" so obviously this means absolutely nothing and has nothing to do with kidnap or rape. So please, ignore the hysteria.

Regarding your question, it is likely you will be disappointed after your escort experience. Regardless of whether she is good looking or you have fun, I don't think it will fill the void in your life. Obviously I could be wrong - after all, I don't know you - but chances are you won't find it a massively fulfilling experience.

As someone else suggested, you could just go to coppers, talk to a few girls, and in all likelihood you will be able to take one home with you. People go to coppers for a reason.

Think of it like this: with the EUR 300 or whatever the escort will cost, you could buy some new clothes, get a nice haircut, and go out to coppers and spend a fortune on drinks for you and whoever you are chatting up.

EscortCrazy

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I can't stop looking up escorts and massage parlours. I'm newly single after breaking up with a lovely gal that I couldn't look after, and now all I want is some good fun with a woman. No strings. Am I wrong? It feels wrong but at the same time it's all I want and all I can thnk about

No there is nothing wrong with using escorts and if it is really what you want to do then why not try it. It is the only way you will find out.

However your reasons for doing it do not sound like it is something you want to do - but something you are doing as a reaction to what is essentially an emotional trauma.

Break ups hurt and we need to face that hurt evenetually and going to an escort will not cure it and may not even delay it.

Also I would point out that there is nothing wrong with sex, pornography or prostitution - until such time as they become detrimental to the rest of your life by becomming an addiction or an obsession. Alarm bells ring when I hear words like "It is all I can think about" and "I can not stop".

In short - By all means go to an escort if you like but be sure you are going because you actually want to and not as a reaction to emotional pain - and be sure that the time and money you invest in such pursuits does not start to negatively impact the rest of your life.

If either of those things becomes true you need to talk. Either by talking more to us here about it - or by talking to a professional - or both - but do talk because such issues get worse - not better - with time.

LegacyUser

I think to be honest I just want the physical closeness of a beautiful lady. How sad is that.

Molloys Clondalkin

one other thing you could do is go to Coppers with an escorts number in your pocket if you dont score then make a quick call
Its also becoming more socally acceptable to use escorts these days, Just look at Two and a half men or how I met your mother.
They glamorise them a lot, so if hollywood thinks its ok its fine by me!

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panda100

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I think to be honest I just want the physical closeness of a beautiful lady. How sad is that.

Its not sad OP. You had a break up, and that is always going to be painful. We all crave physical closeness and intimacy every now and again. Personally, I don't think paying someone for whom it is just a job, and is just watching the clock until they can throw you out and get their money, wont be very fullfilling.

I agree with a previous poster on here. I think spending the €300 on doing something that makes you feel good. New clothes,enrolling in an evening course that interests you, treating your mates to a swish night out. I think they will be a lot more pleasurable than a 30 minute shag with a women who doesnt even want to be there.

whiteblueman wrote: »

There is better value and choice in England though and some of them are far better than any time on offer with the standard girl in Ireland. That is not just me saying, most of my friends think the same (hence the frequent flights across the pond!!!).

Overall I love them but you need to check their prices and make sure you see a picture of them before hand.

This post is disgusting. Discussing women like they are pieces of meat in a butchers shop for you to weigh up and buy. If this is what using prostitutes does to someone attitude towards women, then id say using prostitutes is a really, really bad idea.

jimmycrackcorm

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I can't stop looking up escorts and massage parlours. I'm newly single after breaking up with a lovely gal that I couldn't look after, and now all I want is some good fun with a woman. No strings. Am I wrong? It feels wrong but at the same time it's all I want and all I can thnk about

Is it possible that you simply have a guilt association between these?

Mr. Loverman

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I think to be honest I just want the physical closeness of a beautiful lady. How sad is that.

It's not sad at all.

You know, for the EUR 300 or whatever it will cost, you could probably go to Lativa, Belarus, Poland or some other country full of stunners and meet a beautiful girl who isn't with you because she's being paid.

Whatever you decide to do, just remember the loneliness and emptiness you are currently feeling will go away with time, so try not to let it get you down.

discus

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I think to be honest I just want the physical closeness of a beautiful lady. How sad is that.

So, you're similar to 90% of guys out there? Just putting things in perspective, most of us are the same (and with similar luck at one stage or another).

OS119

EscortCrazy wrote: »

I think to be honest I just want the physical closeness of a beautiful lady. How sad is that.

sorry mate, but you won't get 'close', and you certainly won't get a beautiful lady.

for a bloke like you - you're lonely, hurting, and you feel you let down your last GF - it will be an awful, horrid, empty experience that will leave you feeling worse than you do now.

save your money, don't go to some dreadful meat market where you'll hook up with some Sz20 moose who'll tell you how awful her boyfriend is after you've slept with her - do something positive, go white-water rafting in Switzerland, or para-gliding on the Mournes, or just sun-chasing to a greek island.

change your life, going whoring just kicks your problem down the road while costing you a fortune and giving you galloping bollock-rot...

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