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Singleitous

  • 17-09-2011 9:14pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, I know its not the worst thing in the world and iv been so busy lately that i dont think about it.

    But every now and then when im either at the shops on the train or just out for walk by myself and see alota couples having a good time together, i feel like the odd one out!

    Im in my early 20s so im aware it all takes time and ill meet someone when the time is rite,and so on so on...
    and then sometimes i think, am i doing something wrong here, to prevent myself from meeting a nice fella, as most girls i know around my age seem to have a boyfreind.

    And I also, get the silly questions from the older generation of" why dont you have a boyfriend"?...as if iv decided not to pick one up this time,,lol.

    iv had encounters with guys and one or two disasters to say the least.
    Im quite social and freindly.

    So my question is has anyone any simelar expereince, or any tips
    from a male point of view, would be great. Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Better here I reckon OP

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    starlit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Hey Op don't feel too hard on yourself, I feel like the way you are feeling sometimes but I try not to let it get to me. Keeping yourself busy, getting involved in things, being happy and having people around you is the way to go!

    You will meet someone when you wouldn't expect it to happen these things just happen when the time is right, you can't force these kind of things. Like I always say 'things happen for a reason!'

    Try meeting new people in a less pressurised environment say, make new friends, widen your circle of friends, meeting friends of friends, joining a club or taking up a new hobby or joining something or doing something new or getting involved in something might help you meet guys.

    Being friendly, showing an interest, being chatty and being yourself will win out!

    Good luck OP!


  • #4
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    My opinion on relationships with people in their early 20's (my own age group) is that it's a terrible idea to go looking for one. You are way more likely to overlook major character flaws because you are trying too hard to have anyone, not just someone. I have seen it time and time again with friends.

    It's really something that when you are young you just have to happen upon. trying shouldn't really come into it at such a young age it should be simply about the fun.


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