Am i doing a bad thing?

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bronte

It's only four weeks! It will fly!
How long have you been together?
Just be clear that this is something you really want to do and you'll be in communication throughout. I'm sure he'll miss you when you're away, but absence makes the heart grow fonder. Four weeks is nothing...you'd be mad not to go.

Larianne

4 weeks?? Jeez that's nothing. Sometimes I wouldn't see my fella in that amount of time anyway..

KittyeeTrix

I would say GO and enjoy this opportunity to travel a bit and see the world..... Life is short so enjoy new experiences while you can!!

nicechick!

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There not friends!! Playing up on your insecurities or putting needless thoughts of self doubt into your head there the one's with insecurities you go have and have a fantastic time!

sashafierce

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wolf moon

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Look, you are not fukin dying. If he loves you - he waits. If not=fuk him.

The_Kew_Tour

As a bloke I say you should go..

Dont feel guilty..

bohochic

go! i was with a guy three years and never did a thing and i regret it. ive got the travelling bug now but im annoyed i didnt go sooner.

Go.

Tonyandthewhale

Summer before last I spent roughly a month cycling around Europe without my girlfriend. This summer just gone she disppeared off to America for two months and after Christmas she'll be off to Finland for three months. It's not a big deal, we've been together almost three years, we're very much in love but although sometimes it's a bit lonely it's not like we can't survive without each other for a few weeks.

Having a boyfriend is no reason not to go on holiday to see your friend.

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jimbobaloobob

go and have no regrets. its easy for your friends to have opinions when its not their situation.

Dont grow old wishing you should have done something. Enjoy

baby and crumble

A month isn't that long, and I'd wager that these girls aren't in very long term relationships, or if they are they are very insecure. I honestly don't think most people would think like them. But tbh the only person who you should take into consideration in this is your boyfriend, but if he's cool with it then definitely go and enjoy yourself!

beks101

WTF? Your friends sound backwards. Either that or they're jealous of your get-up-and-go. Probably both.

You're an independent woman, you have the opportunity of a lifetime here, why would having a boyfriend stop you in your tracks? You're with him five years, surely four weeks away from him isn't going to split you up! You've talked it over with him, he doesn't have a problem, that's the only opinion that counts - your friends are wholly irrelevant here. Go, have fun!

astonaidan

As a lad , I really have to say You shouldnt be worrying about a month

Wompa1

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Bring lots of money! and I mean lots!

Pembily

Relax, go on your holidays and have a blast... If your ''friends'' can't be without their boyfriends for that long they are their own issues and insecurities!

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sashafierce

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2 million might be pushing it all right :pac:

have fun though and don't be worrying

kildare.17hmr

OP your friends sound like tools to me and to be fair if your boyf doesnt want ya to go he would want a dose of cop on too, if he doesnt trust you thats his problem!

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Ickle Magoo

Moved from tLL.

This is the appropriate forum if you require advice on any personal issue. :cool:

woodchuck

No, you’re not doing a bad thing! Go and have an absolute ball! If neither you nor your boyfriend have a problem with this, then there is no problem. Your friends obviously just have their own issues/insecurities, which is unfair of them to project onto you.

I’ve gone away a few times without my OH and it’s never been a problem. And absence makes the heart grow fonder

nicechick!

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This is shocking more like jealousy/envy he can't go with you! As the saying goes ''absence makes the heart grow founder'' ideally he should be excited for you! Its only four weeks maybe your ''not so nice friends'' have also being playing up on his insecurities!

The most successful relationships/couples I know are couples that are independent of each other however much in love they are with each other i.e they don't need that reassurance of the other half to be constantly be by there side & respect that there other half has other interests in life other then them & that they won't always share some of those elements with them.

You think you'd committed a crime the way they've made you feel stop worrying!!

dammitjanet

Last year I went to Australia for a month leaving behind my boyfriend of four years.
It was an amazing experience and I got to see a lot in the time I was away, and even though I missed him so much (it was the longest we'd ever been apart) I don't regret it at all.
I think it's important to do things as a couple, and by yourself. I even put off moving in with him for a year because I wanted to live by myself to make sure I could do it if anything bad were to happen.

Ignore your friends and silly things like your going to cheat and so on. Your a couple, you're not bonded at the hip. You trust one another and nothing else matters. You can be apart but still together.

Enjoy yourself love x

i dont know what is wrong with your friends, they must have some serious issues!!

seriously, your going on holidays for 4 wks to see your friend and to experience australia!! whats wrong with that?

your ok, your boyfriend may be sick he cant go but he obviously doesnt mind you going, so what what your friends think?who cares?
every year i go for a week to the sun with my oldest friends, chilling, relaxing, eating, drinking, eating good dinners!

so what? enjoy!!!! wish i was going!!!!

Firetrap

What utter nonsense they're talking! You and your boyfriend aren't joined at the hip.

The only person whose opinion matters is your boyfriend's. Seeing as he's OK with you going, it's an open and shut case as far as I'm concerned. Enjoy your holiday

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