lack of communication on building plans

Dublin_Mom

A neighbour building a planning exempt extension is planning to build the wall up to the outer edge of where the boundary wall used to be.. We asked him if he would be interested in a party wall, as we plan to build in the spring. but he said no as he would then have to redraft his plans and delay his project. Note that as this structure was not subject to pp we only saw a very sketchy outline of what was planned (and even that we had to ask several times to see)

I asked the neighbour (who has moved out for duration of the build) and his builder to talk with me today about the wall, or instead with my architect if they preferred. But neither the builder or the neighbour would talk with me. The builder left it to one of his workers, a guy with poor English, to explain in a sort of fashion what his boss had told him to do. he and his buddy (who has no English at all) then started pouring the foundations.

I am not by nature a confrontational person, but am very upset by their reluctance to even call around and talk about this (they are still living in the neighborhood so it wouldn't be a major hassle to drop by for a chat)
I have called them and made myself available.
When the time comes to build and render our wall, we will be unable to do so due to the proximity of their wall. I wanted to talk with them and discuss either the party wall or the possibility of them going back a bit further, so we could render our wall when the time comes (we would step back a similar amount) But we cannot discuss anything if they will not engage with us. I have even suggested that the architects talk (so its not so personal) but I got no response.

We have been very cooperative to date, But frankly I feel we have been used and their attitude is that as long as they get their extension and wall built, they couldn't care less about ours.

I understand that it is neighborly to give them access to render the wall from our side but frankly in my current frame of mind I feel like going out and buying lattice fencing and installing on the bondary line so they cannot trespass. Yes, I realise that is confrontational but really if they are not interested in being considerate to us, why should I care?

Has anyone come up against a similar situation and how did you handle it?

as a general point, I understand that the planning exemption rule has some merits, but it is lacking in that it allows a project to just start off without having to show any plans at all to your neighbours. At least with planning permission you get a chance to see what your neighbours are going to build. In an ideal world we would have neighbours who would share the detailed plans with those to be affected, but how often does that happen?

muffler

You already have a thread on this issue. No need for 2.

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