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I'm so angry!

  • 09-09-2011 11:01pm
    #1
    Gamer Bhoy 89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,630 ✭✭✭


    Not towards the point of medical help. I don't have anger issues. I'm just really p*ssed off at the moment as I'm typing this but I won't say why exactly.

    But what should I do to calm myself down?
    I don't want to flip out at anyone It's not in my nature. But sometimes when I'm angry it takes me a while to just chill out. I'm usually in the same bad mood for hours on end and no1 will talk to me it's kind of upsetting. It causes me to fall out with everyone around me.

    Is there anyway to get me out of an angry state quicker than usual? I don't like being p*ssed off it ruins the buzz for everyone else around me :(


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  • #2
    gargleblaster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭gargleblaster


    Well the most important part is already done. You've recognized that you're in a state you don't want to be in, and you realize that it's harming your relationships with others.

    My suggestion (I'm very hot-tempered and short-fused as well) is to examine the reason why you're so angry, and analyze all your options for dealing with the cause.

    If it's something you can do something about, think about that. Thinking about ways to address the issue can put you in a more analytical mindset as opposed to such an emotional one.

    If you can't do anything about it, then focus on reminding yourself that feeling angry about it is fairly pointless, and make yourself move on to thinking about something more pleasant. One thing that helps me (this may sound silly) is putting on some nice, soft classical music. Another thing is thinking of the silliness inherent in being upset about things we can't control. We all do this to varying degrees, but it can get extreme and that's when it can become a problem. If you can see a funny side to it, that can defuse your anger faster than anything else I've tried.

    It might also help to keep in mind that you're doing this for yourself and your own well-being. A nice side effect is you'll no longer be a buzz kill, but you'll feel better first.


  • #3
    Gamer Bhoy 89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,630 ✭✭✭Gamer Bhoy 89


    Cheers I feel calmer already after reading that lol


  • #4
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    OP, I get hot-headed too. I used to have an awful temper but have learned what my triggers are, and adjusted my responses.

    One of the things that gets me through work, say if somebody notices a mistake in something and it results in all my mornings work having to be scrapped, I either make a joke out of it to diffuse my frustration, or say to myself "nobody died, calm down"

    I found humour my main tool to use, but sometimes I need to walk away and focus on something else entirely, so I mentally park the issue for a few hours, deliberatly distracting myself, then return to the problem with a cooler head.


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