Am in the friend zone or not.

Pluck81

Hello All

Have a question for you all. I went on a date recently and we got on brilliantly. I met her on a dating site and we had talked for a couple of months before meeting. The night of the date we went back to hers and stayed up till 5 in the morning and then shared a bed, no funny business, just a bit of a cuddle.

Here is the confusing part, she says we are mates now more than anything. we still talk regularly but recently I had another date with someone else. I told her about my date and she started to tell me how sweet and funny I was. Am i getting mixed signals here. I do like this girl but not gonna waste my time if we are just gonna be mates.

I am getting sick of the mixed signals too so just want some peoples opinions.

Thank you all

PhiloCypher

Been in that situation many's a time myself , you mutually inverted comma's(nothin mutual about it at the time)decide to be just mates , then soon as you mention you've met someone else it's "oh we must meet up so you can tell me all about her" and a few drinks later she's throwing herself at you

Did she tell you how sweet n funny you were in person ? what was her demeanor if she was touchy feely you may have given her pause for thought if not she could simply be trying to boost your self esteem by telling you what a great catch you are .

If its the former I think you'd be best off continuing to date the second girl regardless as who wants someone that indecisive , if its the latter then you have a good friend and one can never have too many of them .

Colonel_McCoy

Did you ask her out on a second date?

Miss Fluff

Pluck81 wrote: »

Here is the confusing part, she says we are mates now more than anything.

If she said she sees you as a mate then she probably sees you as a mate and nothing more. I think she was quite clear, nothing really to be confused about tbh.

Telling you that you are sweet and funny is her feeling able to compliment you now that you are actively dating other people and without you getting the wrong impression that she means anything romantic by it.

gerryk

If you look at it from her perspective, you went on a date, ended up sharing a bed, whereupon you didn't make any advances, and subsequently you went on a date with someone else and discuss it with her.
She sees you as a mate because that's how you have treated her.