Need to get rid of weird house-mate!

Oranage2

A little back story -

My friend has been living in rented property for the past year - his lease was up but his other house moved out so he renewed the lease by himself - the land lord told him it was alright to sub let the place if my mate could find people -

So i moved in 2 weeks ago, no problems,

But 5 days ago 'Jed' moves in, weirdo would be an understatement. He hides in his room all day, complains about the noise when we had ONE party to celebrate HIS arrival (bare in mind 'Jed' is a college student), and the straw that broke the camels back was the other day I came back from my lunch break and Jed and a friend of his were playing some sort of trading card game - I sh!t you not.

But we want to get rid of him, would it be right to think my friend can evict Jed as he is the only lease holder, also what would be the best way to evict Jed? I was think note under his door?


Thanks for the replys

evry1sm8

This housemate doesnt sound too strange really...
I mean he doesnt like too much noise, he keeps to himself, and he plays with cards...??
That doesnt sounds bad tbh!
How loud were you being?
Id prefer that to a really loud, over involved housemate who talked to me constantly and was always under my feet.
Or was dirty or ate your food or made too much noise themselves.
Is there anything else he did that you didnt like?

Morag

Ask threshold.

Nothing wrong with the lad keeping to himself and lots of college students play all manner of card games.

evry1sm8

PS: A note under the door would really offend me if I was him.
Why not just talk to him about your issues?

Miss Fluff

Oranage2 wrote: »

But 5 days ago 'Jed' moves in, weirdo would be an understatement.

I think "intolerant" would be the understatment that springs to my mind :rolleyes:

What kind of sheltered life have you lived thusfar? Have you lived in shared accommodation before?

The bloke likes to keep himself to himself and likes a cardgame. That makes him a weirdo?

How exactly?

Oranage2

evry1sm8 wrote: »

PS: A note under the door would really offend me if I was him.
Why not just talk to him about your issues?

He actually never leaves his room and I've never been in this situation or has my friend so we really dont know what to do.

evry1sm8 wrote: »

This housemate doesnt sound too strange really...
I mean he doesnt like too much noise, he keeps to himself, and he plays with cards...??
That doesnt sounds bad tbh!
How loud were you being?
Id prefer that to a really loud, over involved housemate who talked to me constantly and was always under my feet.
Or was dirty or ate your food or made too much noise themselves.
Is there anything else he did that you didnt like?

Just stays in his room - we kinda wanted to live withsome we like to get to know, also a Friend is moving back from Australia so we were hoping to get the guy out ASAP.

Stench Blossoms

Oranage2 wrote: »

Just stays in his room - we kinda wanted to live withsome we like to get to know, also a Friend is moving back from Australia so we were hoping to get the guy out ASAP.

Well then you shouldn't have let him move in in the first place.

evry1sm8

Ah no, I feel sorry for this guy
Its not really fair on him, to have him moving in and then being asked to leave just cos it suits you guys better to have a friend...
Why dont you and your friend find another 3 bed place and move there to live with the guy coming back from Oz, and leave the other quiet guy be?

Trust me, there is FAR worse out there then a quiet housemate...
You have it lucky, trust me.

RuailleBuaille

The last straw was you coming home and he was playing cards?!

I'd be careful to do things the right way, as somebody said, contact Threshold because he has rights if he signed a lease.

If you're going to have to live with him in the interim, I think a note under the door is going to make for a bad atmosphere. Why not just be honest with him? You never know, he might be racking his brains trying to come up with a way to get away from you!

Oranage2

Oranage2 wrote: »

He actually never leaves his room and I've never been in this situation or has my friend so we really dont know what to do.



Just stays in his room - we kinda wanted to live withsome we like to get to know, also a Friend is moving back from Australia so we were hoping to get the guy out ASAP.

That sounds to me to be the hub here. He could be great and perfect but at the end of the end of the day you want your mate to move in.

Poor guy.

Katgurl

Leave the bloke alone, so what if he is not into partying and plays card games with his friends. What age are you anyway - the world is made up of many different types of people, not everyone has to be into the same things. Can't you spare a thought for the poor bloke and maybe he feels like an outsider because he's not the same as everyone else? No way, absolutely no way should you shove a note under his door asking him to leave, that is downright cruel and could crush the poor bloke. Yeah, it might suit you better to have your friend livign with you or have a more likeminded person but thats your problem frankly.

A Primal Nut

Oranage2 wrote: »

He actually never leaves his room and I've never been in this situation or has my friend so we really dont know what to do.



Just stays in his room -

But you said you found him playing cards? So clearly he does leave his room when it suits him.

Maybe he spends a lot of time online - like you, judging by how many times I see you posting on here (not saying I'm any better).

we kinda wanted to live withsome we like to get to know, also a Friend is moving back from Australia so we were hoping to get the guy out ASAP.

So why would you tell him to move in five days ago if you have a friend moving home from Australia, who you would like to move in with?

LegacyUser

I feel very sorry for this poor bloke. Imagine living with someone so childish and judgemental. Honestly, a quiet housemate is a lot better than a loud annoying dose constantly making noise and imposing on other people's space.

Oranage2

A Primal Nut wrote: »

But you said you found him playing cards? So clearly he does leave his room when it suits him.

Maybe he spends a lot of time online - like you, judging by how many times I see you posting on here (not saying I'm any better).




So why would you tell him to move in five days ago if you have a friend moving home from Australia, who you would like to move in with?

He does leave his room to go college, eat etc but after about 5pm he doesnt leave his room -

I work nights so and can tell you boards is the only thing that keeps me semi-sane

Also its not about the mate moving in, its about not getting on with the guy, it just so happened we found out our mate was moving back and he asked on facebook if we knew anywhere to stay- total coincidence.

Also I'm just looking for the best way to get rid of him.

evry1sm8

I would say move out yourself, and your friend.
If he's happy and youre not it should really be you to move and not a case of "getting rid of him".
Look on daft or whatever for another 3 bed place for you, the housemate you like, and the guy coming home from Oz.
Then everyones happy

Man up and say it to his face so.

Very simply,

"It's not working out with you here, we think it'd be better if you found somewhere else"

And at least have the decency to give him a month to find a place.

Kevin Duffy

Oranage2 wrote: »

Also I'm just looking for the best way to get rid of him.

What you mean is "me and my also immature mate want to do something horrible, can anybody back us up here?"

If Jed is paying his rent and behaving, that's a much as you're entitled to. Leave him alone and grow up.

gypsy_rose

Sounds like an alright housemate to me, what's your problem? be thankful you don't have one that keeps you up all night with drunken singing, eats your food and doesn't get off their backside all day to do the washing up or fix anything that needs to be done in the house. You're all just ganging up on him because he's not like you, leave him alone. The decent thing would be for both of you to leave so he can have nice housemates that won't make him feel like a freak just because he isn't like them.

quiz

Maybe he is not bothering to hang around with ye because ye mostly bitch and moan about other people and are not all that interesting?

dudara

OK - putting aside the fact that I don't like how you're going about this, there isn't really much you can do.

You could approach him in a decent manner, face to face, and let him know that both of you feel that he doesn't fit in and ask him to leave. But that's such an awful thing to do. Especially if he's not doing anything unpleasant or in breach of his lease.

So the question here for you is, do you want to push him out or not? If you want to push him out, then at least be honest about it with him.

killwill

dudara wrote: »

OK - putting aside the fact that I don't like how you're going about this, there isn't really much you can do.

You could approach him in a decent manner, face to face, and let him know that both of you feel that he doesn't fit in and ask him to leave. But that's such an awful thing to do. Especially if he's not doing anything unpleasant or in breach of his lease.

So the question here for you is, do you want to push him out or not? If you want to push him out, then at least be honest about it with him.

I suspect this is a made up issue, just like the one in the Pet Forum about getting a friend's neightbour's dog put down.

dudara

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Rds1989

Jesus man come on he probably feels more uncomfortable around you than anything. I get the impression you are all quite outgoing confident lads and you probably intimidate him a bit. Just be civil with him and im sure he will reciprocate, dont place a bloody note under his door as that could result in him being even more introverted in future around people. Be an adult and talk it out.

Hank_Jones

Very bad form on your part OP.

Guy doesn't sound like a bad housemate at all and you're turfing him out because he doesn't conform to your exact mentality.

Just say stuff similar to your OP to him, wouldn't think he'd want to stick around after that.

Poor lad.

Kadongy

OP, you would be well off learning to respect people as individuals, instead of needing everyone to join in your circle jerk.

LegacyUser

Hi, just wanted to give my own experience. I moved to Australia last year and found a room in a house with other Irish girls, strangers to me but I needed to make some friends anyway.

I am pretty quiet, shy at times, I'm not into clubbing or boozing. However I am perfectly friendly and clean. I was working in a job that involved really long hours and I was wrecked during the week so didn't do too much socialising with the girls. I thought they understood until they started getting nasty, vicious actually. Leaving horrible notes etc.

To get to the point they told me to get out (I wasn't on the lease) and gave me less than 12 hours to do so. They already had organised one of their pals to move in. Mainly because I wasn't going drinking with them and they wanted a fun housemate as they put it. I had to pack my bags, rent a car and live in it for a week until I got paid again.

Anyway, that kind of rejection hurts. Just thought you might like to see it from the other side. This guy is doing no harm. He needs a place to live. So what if his lifestyle differs from yours?

Lanaier

Show Jed this thread (seriously)

That way he'll see that you're a muppet but at least most people took his side.
He's better off away from the likes of you.

Go Jed!

Oranage2

Oranage2 wrote: »

Just stays in his room - we kinda wanted to live withsome we like to get to know, also a Friend is moving back from Australia so we were hoping to get the guy out ASAP.

You're allowed to choose your house mates. You're even allowed to interview them.

But once you accept them and they move in, that is where they live. You want to throw this guy out of where he lives because he's a bit nerdy? You sound like exactly the kind of person that has probably given this guy trouble his entire life. He should get well shot of you.

If you want a party house where you can make fun of people who are different to you, move out and find one. Don't turf this guy out of his accommodation.

Danniboo

Your dead right Jed should move out, to get far away from you and your cronies. Poor guy. You sound unbelievably childish and immature OP, I truly hope that the whole house share college experience will open your eyes, or you will be one lonely individual.

Jed can come and live with me any day, i've lived with some true nutjobs and he sounds like a dream housemate, doing his own thing, minding his own business, laidback. I presume he cleans up after himself seen as you haven't given out about that? You on the other hand OP, sound like a bloody nightmare to live with.

College student doesnt automatically = Drunken yob, who wants to live in a party house and live on noodles.

Lanaier

Oranage2 wrote: »

He does leave his room to go college, eat etc but after about 5pm he doesnt leave his room -

I know this will probably sound crazy to a college student but maybe he's...you know.."Studying"?

santana75

How old are you OP? You come across like a spiteful 14 year old girl. Jesus Christ this other guy keeps to himself, what business is that of yours? So long as he's not meesing with you in any way there should be no problem.

Danniboo

santana75 wrote: »

How old are you OP? You come across like a spiteful 14 year old girl. Jesus Christ this other guy keeps to himself, what business is that of yours? So long as he's not meesing with you in any way there should be no problem.

+1 OP it almost equates to bullying what you and your "friend" are doing. At best its very forceful inappropriate behaviour. You will be our friend and party with us or you'll face the consequences. If I were him i'd be straight on to the landlord/lady.

zxcvbnm1

yeah OP - you really are a nasty piece of work.

I do understand how you would prefer to have one of the lads that goes drinking and whatever.

But given that Jed is there now, if you have any compassion you will just take it on the chin and get on with the situation.
You're making a bigger deal out of this.

Just get on with it and get on with Jed as best you can by respecting him.

DaveDaRave

Oh my god, he plays trading card games ? :eek:

I hope you get cancer.

Danniboo

DaveDaRave wrote: »

Oh my god, he plays trading card games ? :eek:

I hope you get cancer.

That's a horrible thing to say to anyone

AnonoBoy

Ah yes the college students who think someone isn't 'cool' enough to live with them.

He keeps out of your way and doesn't make noise. Dear oh dear - what a nightmare!

You can't force him out but if you really want to get rid of him you should have a conversation with him and tell him man-to-man. I suspect somehow that you won't do this.

If I believed in such things as karma I'd hope that your next housemate, eats all your food, throws parties when you are trying to study and leaves owing rent and bills. You'll be longing for the days of the quiet, card-trading Jed!

Randy Shafter

Wow, OP. Just because this chap may be shy, studious and keeps to himself a bit and plays a trading card game is grounds to try and get rid of him? Thats well out of form. But if you want to get rid of him, say it to his face and be done with it. He might be happier somewhere where he is appreciated.

Lollipops23

I think the OP's probably gotten the gist of the sentiment towards him and his mate, but I don't care.
OP, I feel awful for Jed. He sounds like most people's dream housemate- he keeps to himself within reason, and doesn't trash the place with parties. Sounds like he takes pride in his living quarters.
He's be better off without you.

dirtypanties

Jed sounds like my husband..Clean,respectful,quiet and likes to trade cards in his spare time...

Leave Jed alone or you'll have me to deal with:mad:

swordofislam

Don;t be an arsehole to the guy. Tell him it isn't working out, that you'd like a flatmate who you got on better with and why doesn't he look for somewhere else and he can have plenty of time (do this after your friend is back from Australia in case he finds somewhere immediately)

discus

swordofislam wrote: »

Don;t be an arsehole to the guy. Tell him it isn't working out, that you'd like a flatmate who you got on better with and why doesn't he look for somewhere else and he can have plenty of time (do this after your friend is back from Australia in case he finds somewhere immediately)

Not a bad idea. I get the feeling that OP is immature enough to carry out her threat of replacing Jed regardless of our outrage, she might as well be nice about it.

I'd hate to think how she would have acted had she not started this thread.

evry1sm8

DaveDaRave wrote: »

I hope you get cancer.

Wow, a bit too far there perhaps? :eek:
Thats just not nice.

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willmunny1990

Ive met people like the OP before and they werent nice people i wouldnt be so quick to get rid of "Jed" he seems like the perfect roommate,you could get rid and the next guy could be a total w*nker,but hey then hed be more like you so youd probably be happy

LegacyUser

Sorry to say Op there is nothing wrong with what "Jed" has been up too. He is legally renting and has rights like both of you have.

Unfortunately this is what happens when you don't screen potential applicants or find people who might suit your tastes to move in with.

Take it as a lesson to check up on people in future.

Also I know several normal people who actively play "card games" and they seem fine to me, mostly because they know anyone who judges them by a hobby is usually not very smart to begin with.

Ickle Magoo

willmunny1990 infracted for personal abuse.

OK OP, I think the consensus is clear - and wanting rid of a flat-mate for playing cards hardly constitutes a PI anyway.

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