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Advice on finding love?

  • 05-09-2011 10:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    They say that you find what you are looking for when you stop looking for when you stop looking. Thing is, how so i stop looking?

    I have tried internet dating and got nowhere, i am very social and meet new people all the time. I find myself getting crushes like a school girl (i'm 32) on one guy after the next and getting upset as they never seem interested in me. There are a million things i could do to occupy myself, i have many friends and am a great conversationalist, however all i ever think about is finding the right guy and settling down and i probably stink to high heaven of desperation! That is my issue. All i want in life is to meet my soul mate if there is such a thing, or to have a partner in life. I just don't know how to find him or how to stop being so desperate that i don't scare him off.

    Another issue is, i am bi polar. I take excellent care of myself, minimal drinking, no drugs, eat well, take medication, i am probably the most balanced person i know! However, it's not something i want to or ever could hide from a potential partner and i have always feared i will never find anyone who will sit out the time it takes to get to know me to see that i am normal, once they learn of my diagnosis.

    I don't want to resign to living alone. I want to be with someone. But how?


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  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    timeforlove? wrote: »
    I find myself getting crushes like a school girl (i'm 32) on one guy after the next and getting upset as they never seem interested in me.

    Sounds to me like you are grappling around in the dark for a man, any man, the next available man or the nearest man who shows the remotest interest in you. This is a disaster waiting to happen because chances are you will end up making one bad choice after another such is your anxiety to meet someone, anyone.

    Why don't you take some time out to have a think about what you actually want in a partner? To do that you need to take six months out from the dating scene and fill that time to work on yourself and enrich your own life? Sounds to me like you've lost your way a little in your search to find Mr. Right.

    There's a possibility it may not happen and that's something you have to perhaps contemplate too. I'm not for a second suggesting you lose hope but it is something you have to think about.

    I owuld definitely advocate taking some time out and giving yourself a break though. It will clear away the cobwebs and give you some clarity as to what you really want.


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