New relationship woes

LegacyUser

I started seeing a guy about eight weeks ago, things going ok, had a few falling outs, most of them his fault. But we got back on track.
Today he asked me to inquire about something for him. So I did. I rang him with the result of my inquiries which were not to his liking and he lost the head with me. I was really shocked about how annoyed he got. And I haven't heard from him since which is unusual.
Anyway, tonight I googled his name, and up came a newspaper article about him where he assaulted someone and ended up doing jail time. The article stated he had previous convictions for driving offences and public order offences.
I had felt initially when I met him that he was a bit paranoid and insecure. He's pretty quiet and doesn't appear to have many friends, but neither do I so I didn't judge him on that. But now I'm putting everything together including todays outburst and I'm wondering should I run. And then on the other hand, I think to myself well who am I judge him, I have done some ****ty things in my past. Do I have any right to be annoyed or upset about it? It was fairly recent though. I'm so confused

Miss Fluff

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I started seeing a guy about eight weeks ago, things going ok, had a few falling outs, most of them his fault. But we got back on track.

Getting back on track after eight short weeks you say? Are you yanking my chain? :rolleyes:

If it's this hard work when you're both at such an early stage of just getting to know one another and are anxious to impress one another think what he'd be like after six months?

And now you've just found out he has done time for assault.....:eek:

Name one good reason why you'd stay with him because I'm stumped.

ManOfMystery

Run a mile, seriously. All the warning signs are there - bigger fool you if you ignore them.

I am a friend

He abused you after you did him a favour and you wonder if you should stay with him?

If this is how he treats you after 8 weeks, especially with his history of violence, I dread to think what he will be treating you like in 8 months time.

He is testing you and now knows you will put up with at least basic levels of his crap so he has decided to escalate it and that's what just happened. You let him away with red flags already so he has upped the ante. You stay with him after this and you are his - his to treat as he wants.

Is having a relationship really that important to you? it can't be him you are staying for as he sounds rotten so you must really want to be in a relationship...

There are plenty more fish out there so why sit here and be abused.

ElleEm

I completely agree with the above posters.

You should NOT have had a few falling outs in 8 short weeks. He also shouldn't be "losing the head" with you for something that isn't your fault.

I wouldn't stand for it, and you shouldn't either. The fact that he has a history of violence should be a red flag to you.

Break up with him ASAP.

Colonel_McCoy

8 weeks and you had a few fallings out..........time to bail....

Emme

R U N ! ! ! :eek: :eek: :eek:

VikingG

Easy one... just walk (or run) away....

Classic case of him taking his frustration out on the closest thing to him.... it will only get worse...