feeling crushed

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her laugh her smile her smell her bum, christ i miss this girl.
i lost my job back a few months and for two months was trying hard to get something no luck.i got stuck in a rut and was not my normal jokey self.she was encouraging me to do different things but i was too focused on not being able to bring her out or treat her of which she did not mind. we started to bicker about stupid things 99% my fault, she was under pressure from her job but me being too wrapped up in myself didnt notice this, she decided we needed some time apart, we have met once but she is not ready and i have told her how i feel. i have been in relationships before but have never had this sickining feeling. this girl means the world to me,she is the most caring loving honest girl i have met and i love her. why did i behave like this? does time apart really work?its tearing me apart not seeing her every day. me being a bloke i dont want to talk about this to anyone but would like a womans perspective on this

LegacyUser

Hi There,

Firstly Im sorry for your suffering. Ill tell you my story....
I posted here around a month back about the love of my life wanting a break from me for an unexplained reason. I spent the time apart in unreal pain as this man is the man of my dreams, as you explain this woman is to you. To my delight when I rang him he agreed to meet and we both broke down and ended up back together. A month later he leaves me again and it is even more painful than the first time.
I dont know this girl, or your circumstances but if I can offer you advice based on my recent experience it is to protect yourself. I think when somebody has doubts the game is up!
Im in a black hole at the moment and I just want to run away as he was my world and now I have to create a new one.
A partner asks for a break when they are unsure usually about their feelings, it seems like you are sure of yours however.
Take care

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happylady23 wrote: »

Hi There,

Firstly Im sorry for your suffering. Ill tell you my story....
I posted here around a month back about the love of my life wanting a break from me for an unexplained reason. I spent the time apart in unreal pain as this man is the man of my dreams, as you explain this woman is to you. To my delight when I rang him he agreed to meet and we both broke down and ended up back together. A month later he leaves me again and it is even more painful than the first time.
I dont know this girl, or your circumstances but if I can offer you advice based on my recent experience it is to protect yourself. I think when somebody has doubts the game is up!
Im in a black hole at the moment and I just want to run away as he was my world and now I have to create a new one.
A partner asks for a break when they are unsure usually about their feelings, it seems like you are sure of yours however.
Take care

Thank you happylady for the reply, two years we were goin out, she used to throw her arms around me and told me she loved me, couples fight couples forgive which is why I can't understand how she is being this hard on me. Yes I was a complete ****head in some of my behavior but I would never cheat or lie to her, I hope u get your happiness back soon because I can't take much more of feeling like this.

Kadongy

You sound like you care a lot about her. You sound like a really decent rational kind of guy. It sounds like she's genuinely decent too from what you say.

You probably ought to try to have a greater sense of self-worth. It sounds like you felt like you weren't good enough for her because you weren't employed and felt bad about yourself, and that that was the root of your problems together. It doesn't sound like she encouraged this feeling.

Nobody can say if you will get back together with her or not. All you can do is address your issues - which you have already started to do since you seem pretty clear about what they are - and then approach her again if she is open to it. Focus on building yourself up inside.

Most people are arseholes tbh. You don't seem to be. Don't feel ashamed.

Virgil°

I don't wan't to cut you up even more than you are right now but most breakups don't get mended, and of those that do get mended I would say most don't last.
All you can do is try get on with your life while she makes up her mind.Give her some space, tell her you wont be contacting her for a while and for her not to contact you unless she's ready to talk about your future together, then don't contact her!!.I guarantee she will call if she wants you back.
If and when you do meet her again try your best to act like nothing has happened between you.I don't mean go in with a case of amnesia but basically don't show her that you've been dying of pain in her absence. Tell her how you feel without breaking down and then leave it at that, Don't beg and plead with her for anything that won't help your cause.
I don't envy your position mate, its a disgusting, crippling and wrong feeling that of breaking up, even more so when its prolonged like yours. If worst comes to worst you will survive I promise.
All the best.

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Kadongy wrote: »

You sound like you care a lot about her. You sound like a really decent rational kind of guy. It sounds like she's genuinely decent too from what you say.

You probably ought to try to have a greater sense of self-worth. It sounds like you felt like you weren't good enough for her because you weren't employed and felt bad about yourself, and that that was the root of your problems together. It doesn't sound like she encouraged this feeling.

Nobody can say if you will get back together with her or not. All you can do is address your issues - which you have already started to do since you seem pretty clear about what they are - and then approach her again if she is open to it. Focus on building yourself up inside.

Most people are arseholes tbh. You don't seem to be. Don't feel ashamed.

Thanks for the replies people this is horrible, I think it's gonna be an age for me to get over this, I just hope it doesn't fester inside me and turns me into someone I'm not.

dellas1979

You poor pet - hang on in there.
All you can do now is wait a little, and see what happens.
Think the big problem is that you are caught between a rock and a hard place with regards dealing with your emotions of loosing someone and trying to move on.
If you think she is worth it, and I think you do, hang on. You should let her know that, and that when she is ready, you will be waiting.

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dellas1979 wrote: »

You poor pet - hang on in there.
All you can do now is wait a little, and see what happens.
Think the big problem is that you are caught between a rock and a hard place with regards dealing with your emotions of loosing someone and trying to move on.
If you think she is worth it, and I think you do, hang on. You should let her know that, and that when she is ready, you will be waiting.

Thank u dellas1979 I not dealing with this too well, but this girl is definitely worth it I'd crawl across melted glass to see her smile. she really is that amazing. Past gfs haven't a patch to her, I fking hate myself for being such a twat!

fungun

Melted glass isnt that hard to crawl across really

I know you say couples fight and forgive, but often its harder to forgive a feeling that the partner is selfish or doesnt care. If she felt you were so caught up in what was going on with you that you didnt think or appear to care about her problems then that might cause second thoughts.

Next time u see her Id try to be bright and happy, like you used to be. Should remind her of the good times. Best of luck.

PS Love the username :rolleyes: