Anyone else get crushes?

nagolina

I don't know what else to call it I've fancied this guy absolutely rotten, who lives locally to me, for about 2 years. I nearly fainted the first time I clapped eyes on him but assumed he was married and so made myself forget about him.

Fast forward to last year when I decided to ask a discreet friend about him, she works near where he lives and she told me he was single I have no idea if he still is mind.

I think he might have noticed me, but I'm useless at reading body language, he smiles at me & waves sometimes when we pass each other but apart from that there is no way to meet or speak. Actually, I did see him out once, but all I could do was grin like a mad ape because my brain suddenly stopped working. Jesus, I'm ridiculous

I can't take much more of this....any hints to either try and get him out of my head once and for all, or try to move things along into actually having a conversation?

I did find him on facebook, I recognised him on a local page and sent him a message asking him out...he didn't reply! I don't know whether to take the hint!

I'd love the chance to get to know him, but how?

Someone please talk some sense into me...

nagolina

I know sunflower I'm kind of stuck for ideas here!

It was months ago, I can't imagine he's not seen it by now...

Time to move on eh?

nagolina

I might not follow your advice to the letter there

FGS I'm 36. I should know better by now shouldn't I!

seenitall

Yup, agree with sunflower! I'm 37 and I have a low-level long-lasting crush on someone I've known a while. I think it is easy to "crush" on someone when you're single. It happens, and can be enjoyable (flirting's fun!), as long as one remains grounded and realistic about what's happening (or not happening, I should say).

In your situation, though, I'd move on now and try to meet more people, start dating more etc. His lack of response on FB would tell me all I needed to know about whether I had any chance with him; which would lead to me cooling off anyway. (I seem to have a very practical side emotionally.)

Best wishes.

nagolina

Sunflower & seenital, Thanks for the words of wisdom, it helps to get that cyber slap round the chops with a wet fish Crushes are fun, but this is getting headwrecking! Time to cop on!

I think you're right. It's fun to fantasize but maybe I need to get out in the real world...funnily enough I have dated a little bit recently but decided just to let things be and see what happens. Which would be nothing

I could do with a practical emotional side, my feelings get on top of me sometimes, I spend far too much time daydreaming...sigh.

Sonics2k

Might I suggest you ask him out face to face, instead of over Facebook.

Honestly it's kinda weird getting asked out that way from someone you barely know.

nagolina

Sonics2k wrote: »

Might I suggest you ask him out face to face, instead of over Facebook.

Honestly it's kinda weird getting asked out that way from someone you barely know.

I know, that would have been the sensible and normal thing to do It's a bit hard to explain without giving too much detail but I have hardly ever seen him in a situation where we could actually talk. Hence the marvellous idea of facebook.

Lesson learned and all that!

Kadongy

nagolina wrote: »

I don't know what else to call it I've fancied this guy absolutely rotten, who lives locally to me, for about 2 years. I nearly fainted the first time I clapped eyes on him but assumed he was married and so made myself forget about him.

Fast forward to last year when I decided to ask a discreet friend about him, she works near where he lives and she told me he was single I have no idea if he still is mind.

I think he might have noticed me, but I'm useless at reading body language, he smiles at me & waves sometimes when we pass each other but apart from that there is no way to meet or speak. Actually, I did see him out once, but all I could do was grin like a mad ape because my brain suddenly stopped working. Jesus, I'm ridiculous

I can't take much more of this....any hints to either try and get him out of my head once and for all, or try to move things along into actually having a conversation?

I did find him on facebook, I recognised him on a local page and sent him a message asking him out...he didn't reply! I don't know whether to take the hint!

I'd love the chance to get to know him, but how?

Someone please talk some sense into me...

grow up tbh

I am a friend

Kadongy wrote: »

grow up tbh

Huh??

nagolina

Kadongy wrote: »

grow up tbh

Yup, good advice, ain't gonna happen though.