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Living With Partner

  • 01-09-2011 10:42am
    #1
    butlerjustine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭


    Hi,


    I am moving into my boyfriend's house. He has had it 8 months and had 3 lads renting. The rent doesn't cover all of the mortgage. Now that one guy is moving out I am going to move in now that there's space.

    He doesn't want me to pay rent as he doesnt want to make money out of me but I don't want to live there for free. He said I can pay both our bills but that's a small amount.

    I won't accept a free ride and want to avoid feeling different to the others who pay rent.

    Also if I pay rent, the mortgage gets paid off quicker so we could live alone sooner.


Comments

  • #2
    dr.bollocko
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    Moved from After hours.
    Hope you get some decent advice OP.

    Financial troubles when living together are best solved by a frank discussion... Otherwise these things can resurface at inopportune times.

    You may have to be more forceful about the situation. Indicate that it would make you more secure and happier in the relationship and house if you can pay your own way.


  • #3
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    If you were to pay him would you have the place to yourselves? If it doesn't matter to you that you are living with others then maybe you should open a saving account for both of ye and use the rent money he doesn't want for holidays etc


  • #4
    butlerjustine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭butlerjustine


    Thanks for the replies. I am going to contribute but not pay the same as the previous tenant. I will pay bills also. Its a touchy subject alright :)


  • #5
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Just bear in mind longterm it is his house and if anything happens you'll be walking away with nothing. So don't invest money in the house and don't buy things for the house jointly, don't decorate etc.


  • #6
    butlerjustine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭butlerjustine


    Thanks I've only gotten small things like lamps and teapots so if anything happened, they would be coming with me.


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  • #7
    Kevin Duffy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,439 ✭✭✭Kevin Duffy


    If you're looking towards a future together and paying the mortage off sooner, maybe save what you think you should be paying. In a few years if you're still there, you'll have a few quid for getting married, paying a lump off the mortgage, the expense of kids, doing stuff to the house or whatever. If things don't work out, you'll have your own deposit/running away money.


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