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Wedding rehearsal?

  • 31-08-2011 11:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm bridesmaid for a wedding in a months' time, but unfortunately may not be able to attend the rehearsal....something I need to broach with the bride.
    I haven't been a bridesmaid before, so am fairly unfamiliar with the ins and outs of what's involved. Is it a major disadvantage to NOT go to the rehearsal? At any previous wedding I've been to, the main duty of a bridesmaid seems to be walking up ahead of the bride, standing in for photos, and that's about it....am I underestimating the importance of a rehearsal? Is there a possibility the bride/brides' family would take major offence? There are 4 other bridesmaids, who are all attending....the last thing I want to do is make it seem like I'm snubbing the wedding.


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  • #2
    lace
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    Hi OP!

    I'd say it totally depends on the bride. Some brides think the rehearsal is almost as big as the wedding day itself and do the whole "rehearsal dinner" thing. For others, it's just a formality to be sure everyone knows what's going on. I arrived late and had to leave early for the rehearsal of the last wedding I was a bridesmaid at and nobody cared.

    Perhaps you could mention it to the maid of honour (the one who knows the bride best) and see what she thinks. She'll have a good idea of how big a deal it is to the bride and the family and may be able to give you tips on how best to bring it up.

    That said - you can't get there and you can't change that so there's no point in stressing out about it.


  • #3
    godtabh
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    we only had 2 out of 5 people who were meant to be there for our rehearsal. one was in England. One in Canada and other other has a small child and was busy with her


  • #4
    ash23
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    I didn't go to a rehersal for my sisters wedding and I was bridesmaid. As far I was concerned all I needed to do was show up, walk down the ailse, take my seat and hold her flowers. Oh and help with her train/veil when she was getting up and down off her seat. At the end I signed the registry and off we went.

    First dance and speech was more nerve wracking than the ceremony.

    As above, it depends on the bride. Some will care about you not being there, some won't. But i don't think you'll be at some massive disadvantage by not attending.


  • #5
    woodchuck
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    I was chief bridesmaid at my sisters wedding. That was the first wedding I had ever been to and there wasn’t a rehearsal. I was a bit worried on the day because I didn’t know what was expected of me, but it all just kind of fell into place naturally! So I don’t think it should matter that you’re not at the rehearsal… assuming the bride isn’t a complete bridezilla :)


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