Wedding Invites for Work; Who do you invite/not invite ???

Rebel1977

Getting married later this year but I am stuck as to who I should invite and not invite. I work in an place with about 17 staff. I will be definitely be inviting the manager and there are about 6 my age who be inviting but my problem is if I leave people out will it cause tension ? Anyone have experience or advise on this ?

Bride2012

In that situation I would invite the manager and the 6 you're closest to and if it was local then the other 10 to the afters. If it's not local then you might just be better off with the manager & 6 full stop. Tricky situation.

Nead21

When i worked in a small organisation one of my colleagues got married. She invited the 2 people she was closest to in the office and then everyone else got afters invites. No one was put out as we understood she invited the people she was closest to and i didn't even go to the afters as it was not local to me.

BC

Are you friends with them? Do you socialise outside of work?
Invite your friends, don't invite the others. If you feel bad then invite them to the afters if you really want.
IMO a wedding is a very personal and intimate experience. I wouldn't invite people just because you work with them, invite them if they are friends.

Gatica

same here... I'm not planning on inviting anyone at my current place of work, as I've not been here long, even though it's quite small.
I am considering inviting friends from my previous job, as we were buddies outside of work too.

HairMonster

I've worked in small offices and usually the brides closest friends in the office were invited and everyone else were asked to the afters. Everyone was perfectly fine with it.
Once we were all invited to the full day and it actually made some of us feel uncomfortable. The couple probably had the same dilemma as you. We knew they were trying to keep costs down but probably felt bad about only inviting half of the people.
So go with what you want, which is just your close friends. Believe me, everyone else will understand!

Sofiztikated

In our case, I've invited people I like (and socialise with) to the wedding, and extended an invite to the afters to everyone else.

I'm a sociable fecker, so that means the guts of 90 from the workplace that could potentially turn up.

Toots

I work in a small office of about 18 people so what I did was invited people I was close to individually (ie I sent the invites to their home address) then I put one afters invitation to the whole branch up in the canteen so everyone could see it. I think if you colleagues have any common sense they'll realise that it's not feasible to invite the entire office to the whole day.

bills

I only invited two people from work who I would consider friends.
I was having a small wedding so never a question of asking a large number TBH.

Rebel1977

Think I will go with the select few and then give other a afters invite. I could not stick having one or two of them there for the entire day!

Toots

Rebel1977 wrote: »

Think I will go with the select few and then give other a afters invite. I could not stick having one or two of them there for the entire day!

That was exactly how I felt!!

Heyes

I ended up just inviting the team, and 2-3 others, although saying that i didnt invite 1 person from the team, as they were temping and i didnt really know them at the time. There contract has now been extended so now im not sure what to do, feel like a bit of a waggon for not inviting 1 person...