Told a friend I liked them..

Resi12

Exactly what it says on the tin. I don't know what to do next, they haven't replied on the subject yet. I put something up on FB earlier and they liked and commented on it but then nothing since then or nothing to do with the message I sent saying it..

I dunno, I mean obviously a lack of response means they aren't interested which is alright I guess! I am glad I said it, needed to get it off my chest but this limbo of not talking about it is making me feel even worse/making me think they didn't even get the message and I am putting myself through this hell for nothing. I am sure they did though, I sent it off the web, typed in their number myself and their name came up so it was double checked.

I don't know whether to give them space and let them come to me if they are ready or just maybe try to talk about it some bit more first and then give space or is that just being a bit too much?

Like really I just want an answer or even an acknowledgement and/ore also want to see if he is OK, not too freaked but I don't want to seem needy or too pushy for an answer. What should I do? I'd ask friends but they know him and I think it would be complicated so I'll just ask on here.

As far as why I did it.. We just really have a lot in common, he's so nice to me, takes care of me if I am ever stuck for a bit of cash and me to him, (I think) he does flirt a little now and again but maybe that's my emotions clouding my judgement on some level, we always go on trips together for nights out/getting a laugh, kinda in same path of life on trying to get out sh!te together, never been in relationships. The only thing I think that would make him say no is my weight and insanly I was going to wait until next summer (when I look amazing from the proposed weight loss :pac:) to say it but I thought to myself, if he likes me for me he wouldn't mind all that much so I went for it.

(P.S. To the mod's, I posted this anonymously but that was almost like 3 hours ago so to keep my hair on my head and not in clumps in my hands I am going to ask again here without the need for wait. I.e please delete the other one!)

Kiera

Give it a few days and maybe text him and ask him if he would like to meet up for a chat. He'll know why you want to chat so he'll either say he's not into it then and can you still be mates or he'll meet you and you can talk it out and hopefully he'll feel the same way. OR he might say it to your face that he doesnt want a story.

But do make contact to talk about. Dont just leave it out there and pretend nothing has been said or it will kill you.

ash23

When you sent it was it late? Would he have maybe thought you were drunk?
Personally if I got a text like that from a friend I'd be wary, thinking it was a joke or a drunken mistake from them.

If it's not possible that he thinks that, give him a couple of days to respond. Keep busy and let him take some time to think about it. DO NOT pretend like nothing was said though. Broach it with him in a day or two, just ask him if he's had time to think about what you said.

Catari Jaguar

Advice I once got about the platonic boundary cross: It's only weird, if you make it weird.

Relax

Resi12

Na, I fail to see how a plain in writing text could have been taken wrong. I was chatting to them today through text and they were fine, well more so we were just talking like normal. I dunno if that's a good thing or not?

@cherub rock: I know but if I knew either way I can relax, I think.. Until then I'm in some weird limbo. Do I have a right to be annoyed I haven't gotten a reply, at most I mean them being one of my best friends surely means they should have the balls to tell me one way or another. Especially putting myself out on a ledge like that. Kinda hurts being honest.

Taltos

Resi12 wrote: »

Do I have a right to be annoyed I haven't gotten a reply, at most I mean them being one of my best friends surely means they should have the balls to tell me one way or another. Especially putting myself out on a ledge like that. Kinda hurts being honest.

I think you might be over-reacting - you have had plenty of time to come to terms with your feelings for this friend. They though have been blindsided and may need some time to readjust - pressuring them or blaming them for not returning your feelings or responding is a bit much.
Give them some time and then take the advice above. I think though if you don't get a reply that in itself is your answer...

Resi12

Taltos wrote: »

I think you might be over-reacting - you have had plenty of time to come to terms with your feelings for this friend. They though have been blindsided and may need some time to readjust - pressuring them or blaming them for not returning your feelings or responding is a bit much.
Give them some time and then take the advice above. I think though if you don't get a reply that in itself is your answer...

Yeah that's true, sorry I was a bit annoyed over something else and kinda vented through this. I'd never pressure them or nothing, jeez I'm not a bunny boiler at all! :pac:

I am defo giving them space. Yeah I said that in my first post I think.

Thanks guys, I think I know what to do now. Just give space for a bit, talked to my best friend about it last night. Felt better but thanks for the advice regardless.