Best way to deal with this.

LegacyUser

Hi guys, I have a bit of an issue and it's somthing that I nearly punched my friend over tonight, I am in such a bad mood now, Half of me wants to go back down to his house and have a slander match..

Here is the problem.. Me and my friend are very close (finishe dleaving cert together a year ago0 Anyway ever since we signed on to the dole and did a few courses and now for the last 4 months or so we have done nothing. Anyway for weeks my mate has been like ''ah you have to start working sometime'' and was calli gme a bum because he said being on the dole didnt seem to bother me..

Anyway last week I applied for a 6 week temp job and I got it (I asked my mate to come to the open day and he wouldnt)

And now tonight he started ''that job means nothing, it has no affect on you cv, the job is not worth doing''

could he just be feeling jelious? The way he said it was real smart as if he was laughing at me, I swear I don't know how I didnt hit him for saying it to me

whats the best way to deal with him becuase I don't wanna let them comments go. Should I confront him about it?

Nichololas

I'd leave it go. He doesn't sound like the brightest spark - all jobs can affect your CV (I think anyone would hire someone who worked for 6 weeks in a temp job over someone who sat on their thumbs for 6 weeks) and if he's too foolish to realise that now he won't be when he has to actually take an interview.

curlzy

Hey OP,

I would avoid your friend for a while. It's obvious from your post that he's just trying to hold you down on his level. If you punch him he'll win, because you'll be just as bad as him. Have a bit of class and don't resort to violence over what someone says, by all means call him a waster but NEVER resort to violence over spoken word, that would make you the worst kind of knacker. Your friend is feeling like a waster (and let's be honest when you won't even try something and are happy to sit on the dole that's what you are), and he's upset that he may end up being a waster on his own. The only way he can feel better about you getting this position is to make you feel silly about it and to slag it. That guy isn't a very good friend to you. The best thing to do is work hard on this new temp job and keep working towards your future, let him sit at home slagging you while he does nothing. Who'll win? You will. Well done on getting the job, do your best and you'll end up with the last laugh. And just to repeat, never resort to violence over a spoken word, just walk away.

Best of luck.

BattleCorp

Fair play to you for getting some work. From time to time, I hire people and if you have a history of work, it makes you much more employable - no matter what the job you were doing was.

I'd go with the "leave it go" camp. You are good friends, take it with a pinch of salt. Maybe there's a bit of jealousy on his part but is a harmless comment like that worth throwing away your friendship.

We all say things to piss off our friends from time to time, it was just his turn to piss you off.

Hardly worth throwing away a friendship for.

Zen65

joblessfriends wrote: »

whats the best way to deal with him becuase I don't wanna let them comments go. Should I confront him about it?

No, there's no need to confront him. He knows he's in the wrong but lacks the courage and perseverance to take the step that you have taken. If you are close, as you say, then help him. Be an inspiration to him. Take this job, then the next, then the next. Eventually he will either follow your lead (and perhaps one day thank you, even if you're not around) or the two of you will grow apart.

It would be a shame to end a friendship that means something to you over one silly comment. You are both too young to be falling out over this.

Be at peace,


Z