women don't like me

LegacyUser

I can't seem to keep female friends. I am a single 30 year old woman and I find it hard to maintain female friendships.
No one wants to go out with me because they think I am too goodlooking. I am not... I am ordinary. I don't have a magnetic personality
like some of the girls I head out with but for some reason I get all the attention. I don't even see it and I find that I am not even invited
out with friends because they say 'we have no chance, when you are around'... what does that mean? Sometimes I do think that maybe I might like women more than men but I am not sure.
Any advice?

LegacyUser

it could be that "we dont have a chance when your around" is an excuse. Even the most charming, drop dead gorgeous people are not everyones cup of tea, naybe Im wrong but it seems a bit far fetched that you attract 100% of the male attention 100% of the time. Is it something else they find off putting about you?

LegacyUser

Hi OP. I also have trouble making friends with women. I am good-looking but don’t have a strong personality at all. It’s not an attractive combination at all to other women - they will be jealous of your looks and also put off by your personality. The thing to keep in mind is that there is no objective measure of what makes an attractive personality. Someone that I find repulsive will be well-liked by a lot of people and so on. Statistically, there are potential friends out there for you whether you realise it or not. I’m sure you’ll find some women you compat with. Just try to put yourself out there more and don’t be put off by the haters

LegacyUser

I knew someone who had that problem, and in my experience the issue wasn't that she got all of the male attention; it was that she tried so very hard to get every last bit of the male attention that she p*ssed her friends off. Maybe this doesn't apply in your case, but perhaps worth considering.

slippersRheels

Get your self some new mates. Seams to me the ones you have are not worth having anyway. "Friends" don't have jealousy issues when out for a night on the pull. Real friends encourage, support and would be happy for you if your found a nice guy, not blame you because they cant get one.
Methinks its from an attitude/personality problem on their behalf. Dump them & put yourself first, Life's too short for having people like that in your life, real friends are hard to find but when you do you will realize how lucky you were to get away from bad friendship.

LegacyUser

Your post struck a cord with me OP.

I myself have been told am a really pretty girl on a good few occasions. It embarasses me to be honest more than anything. To me Im just ordinary run of the mill. Ive had a similar problem with making friends. One girl I know, in particular, when I am out, will try and make pure **** of me, putting me down in other areas of my life, and making fun of me. She has commented to some of my friends that "how come she gets all the male attention?" I dont think I do, and I dont do anything to encourage it. I practically dress like a nun! I decided about a year ago to try and develop my personality a bit more (I am the shy laid back type) and I joined different activities. One particular activity I joined as a group, one of the more longer female members accused me of "taking all their men". wtf? I cant even remember the last time I was on a date I am so paranoid. Same at work, all the girls at work seem to "assume" that I am some sort of bicycle-that I am doing most of the fellas in the office - havent gone near any of them (bar in a friendly, having a laugh way). I also get the "lock up you husbands/boyfriends" thing sometimes. Annoys the crap out of me. Yet if I say anything, I am deemed as being full of it. Cant win.

killeoinisback

womendon'tlikeme wrote: »

I can't seem to keep female friends. I am a single 30 year old woman and I find it hard to maintain female friendships.
No one wants to go out with me because they think I am too goodlooking. I am not... I am ordinary. I don't have a magnetic personality
like some of the girls I head out with but for some reason I get all the attention. I don't even see it and I find that I am not even invited
out with friends because they say 'we have no chance, when you are around'... what does that mean? Sometimes I do think that maybe I might like women more than men but I am not sure.
Any advice?

OP, may I ask do you have difficulty in keeping female friends who are in relationships?