Opinions wanted, first date experience.

LegacyUser

Okay so the following happened the other week, I met a girl, exchanged numbers, went on a date.
- We arrived, stayed chatting for hours until the bar closed and we were kicked out. I could make the girl laugh etc, there was kissing. I took all this as a good sign.
- I text afterwards saying 'Good night, lets meet soon'. She replied to say yes.
- Text the next day, making small talk (Monday), didn't get a reply until Tuesday night.
- Not wanting to seem eager, I replied on Wednesday, asking was she still up for meeting.
- It's now Friday night and I haven't heard a thing back from her.

So at this stage I've kinda written off her replying, but frankly I'm frustrated at the whole experience since I thought we'd clicked and her reply on Tuesday was very positive. So where did I go wrong? Is she playing some sort of mindgame with me by not replying for days?

gmac102

Hungryhungryhippos wrote: »

Okay so the following happened the other week, I met a girl, exchanged numbers, went on a date.
- We arrived, stayed chatting for hours until the bar closed and we were kicked out. I could make the girl laugh etc, there was kissing. I took all this as a good sign.
- I text afterwards saying 'Good night, lets meet soon'. She replied to say yes.
- Text the next day, making small talk (Monday), didn't get a reply until Tuesday night.
- Not wanting to seem eager, I replied on Wednesday, asking was she still up for meeting.
- It's now Friday night and I haven't heard a thing back from her.

So at this stage I've kinda written off her replying, but frankly I'm frustrated at the whole experience since I thought we'd clicked and her reply on Tuesday was very positive. So where did I go wrong? Is she playing some sort of mindgame with me by not replying for days?

I personally based on my experience don't think she is interested, she's polite. I've replied to ppl I'm not interested in out of politeness because they texted.
Dude dont sweat the small stuff, we arent for everyone

Miss Fluff

I agree, I don't think she's all that keen. She probably had great fun on the date too but on reflection has decided she doesn't want to take it any further. I wouldn't worry, plenty more fish and all that....

LC2010HIS

I completely disagree.

The fact is, some people arent great texters. I am a girl and recently had a first date myself - Im going on the second soon.
And I can relate to the girl your texting because...

- I am not jumping to texts or texting first cause In my experience, texting ruins everything and it makes u look too available!

- She said yes to a second date. That means she likes you. No girl in their right mind would agree to a second date if she didnt like u!

- She has a life. She is busy.

- Girls like to be chased!! Its just how it is.

- Stop texting. Ring her once to confirm the date. The fact u asked her are ye still on for it will drive home to her u have doubts or are trying to get out of it.

So: Ring her - find out - then lessen the texting

And tell us afterwards

John Mason

oh for god sake - phone her and and ask her out,

its not rocket science

LegacyUser

Right so, I rang, no answer and a few minutes later I got a "You're a nice guy but..." text. End of story, at least now I know for certain. Cheers for the advice folks!

neuro-praxis

Sorry to hear that, but glad you've got clarity and closure. Time to move on!