Asking a girl out by email..Only because ive no other option, Is this acceptable???

LegacyUser

Hi all

A girl started in my job a few months ago, She was only hired on a temp 6 month contract & has just left the company, She was working there 4 months by the time we crossed paths and i got to know her, we got on really well & hit it off straight away. Anyway we all went for her leaving party the other night and I was over talking with one of the lads from work when she came over and started chatting to me. Long story short we were having a great laugh all night, she would go off and come back to me & start talking every so often. One of the chats was a bit of a serious one and she was telling me that i had so much potential and that i was such a nice guy and that i could do a lot better than the line of work im doing at the moment. (I work as on a pensions team in an office). I really like this girl and i got the impression that the feeling might be mutual and just as i was going to tell her my feelings for her one the lads came over and interrupted before I had the chance. After a few mins she walked off to the bar and that was that.

Anyway i had to leave a bit earlier than everyone else because i had to be in the office for 8 the following morning to work on a few urgent cases. So i said my goodbyes and i gave this girl a hug and wished her all the best with whatever she goes onto do next with her life. I was kicking myself though i missed a really good opportunity.

Now the only way i can contact this girl is through her personal email, She gave it to me a while back so i could send her a few things, I did have her number but she lost her phone recently and got a new number, Ive asked 1 or 2 girls in the office had they got the new number but apparently they don't, My manager would but im not asking him.. I want to contact her again so Ive been thinking about emailing her and telling her that i did like her all along and that id love to see her again. I feel a bit embarrassed doing this , Theres no way id do this usually. So i just want peoples opinions on this, especially a girls point of view..to mail her or not to mail her

thanks in advance

neuro-praxis

Go for it! As a woman I say keep it light. Say hi, ask how she is, note you're missing her company around the office. Then ask if you could take her on a date one night next week - and include your mobile number.

No declarations of love, nothing like that. Just chit chat, and asking for the date. That is my advice. You have nothing to lose!

Miss Fluff

Totally agree, email her a nice message saying you miss seeing her about the place and ask her out. Keep talk of "feelings" aside though, just keep it nice and light for now.

Katgurl

Hey op,

go for it, signs all look good here and as she gave you her email no reason you wouldn't use it.

Don't come on too strong though, just a breezy place-isn't-same-without-you ask he how she's getting on, say it was nice getting to know her and would she like to go for a drink sometime.

Good luck.

thefireinside

Don't ask her on a date in the first email either!! As others have said, easy breezy!

You were saying that on the staff night out you were about to tell her your feelings that you liked her etc... I kinda think you're better off that you didn't! It would have been a bit much, its often hard to guage workplace feelings!

Signs are good though, a light email, see if she responds, get a bit of banter going to remind her how well ye used get on and casually slip in after a few emails the possibility of a drink

Good luck!!