Advice needed

LegacyUser

Ok heres my story,
I got to an ex girlfriend from years ago on facebook and she asked if i wanted to meet up one night and i said yeah definatly,
The lead up to the night she was very flirty sending me very nice messages and being really nice,
so i met up with her, was a really nice night we were drinking a lot but we got on really well laughing and joking all night,She even bought a new dress for the night.

Anyways she started scoring with me and we were kissing all night and she invited me back to her place and we ended up sleeping together.
We were both very very drunk,
In the morning she woke up and asked if we had sex, and i said yeah, dont you remember??
And she said oh yeah i do.

Then we were both very hungover and we were both sick that morning so anyways i said my goodbyes and i went to kiss her and she moved to the side and i kissed her cheek, (I think maybe because she was getting sick)

So anyways when we started txting the next day it was very formal and no more real nicestys just kind of oh how are you thats good kinda thing, i tried to talk about that night but she said can we not talk about that night i dont remember anything,
We sent a few more texts and she didnt reply to one of them and i havent heard from her since,
I really like this girl and im not sure where it went wrong,
Should i message her and ask her what happened? or should i forget about it and try to move on,

She was allways my what if girl, what if we didnt break up what if we were still together,
I really really like her and i cant stop thinking about it.

Would things of been diffrent if we didnt get so drunk
Would love a bit of advice on this
And will answer any questions you have

Curry Addict

seems like she just used you for sex or confidence boost.

Miss Fluff

I'd say she's totally mortified at getting so rat-arsed and then puking her ring up in front of you the next day tbh :eek:

How long ago did all of this happen? If you really like her then I don't see the harm in asking her out again and see what she has to say.

Magicmatilda

I agree with the previous poster. Ask her out again. She will either say yes or no. Maybe suggest something non drink related like cinema or dinner.

LegacyUser

I kinda half did ask her out again and she said she'd have to see if she could get time off, I dunno if that was an excuse not to meet up or what,
Since then i havent heard from her, I know shes been working though,
I didnt wanna text back if she didnt text back cause im afraid im annoying her,

Do you think i should send her a text?
I dont wanna be one of those guys thats always texting and cant take a hint,
Ẁhat do you think? Maybe she went with that guy in the end

LegacyUser

It was only like a week or two ago by the way,
Surely she would have contacted me if she liked me?

Miss Fluff

Ask her an open question like when she will be free to meet up again - you'll soon have your answer. If she doesn't reply then forget her. Worth one last shot.

LegacyUser

From the story do you think shes into me or not into me at all?
I really dont want to be annoying her if i dont think she likes me

Miss Fluff

I have absolutely no idea. I don't know her and I don't know you. Probably best you find out from her directly how she feels. If you have a sense that she's not interested and that you would be bothering her then leave it be.

JackN688

How long have you been thinking about her..be rational...which i know full well is hard...but ask yourself was it a one night fling for her.....and even for you
If you decide to just let it be and do no more then there is nothing that can be donr to stop you thinking about her
I lost a friend..not my girlfriend just a friend and it took me months to accept she was gone...so eventually it goes..but not quickly im afraid
Also a sidenote, listen to JS Bach Bradenburg Concertos...they are believed to make you feel happier even if you hate classical music...I do but these are great...whenever i think of her or anything that gets me down i listen to these
Good Luck

JackN688

Ok reading the other posts..my first was response the the origianal post
Firstly...do text...it may end the relationship because she thinks your pushy but it beats doing nothing and feeling terrible....mind you one text should be ok
Simply ask her would she like to meet up some time....or whatever you would say...remember its you thats texting or anyone else just you

You say it was a week or two....Girls generally let you make first contact.....that way in future if you happen to meet they can use the famous line "You never texted me"...it gets them out of situations :P

You also want to know is she into you...that is a question only she can answer...girls do the strangest things so you cant tell
For example my friend(who's a girl)..she hugs me and kisses me as we depart...but she doesnt like me..nor I like her..we are just friends...most would see that as "Oh she likes you" but its not...so simply cant answer

And back to the op...what if girl.....is every girl not a what if girl

Bottom line (no pun intended) text her..ask her out..no reply forget it...if she says yes then best of luck

Kevin Duffy

hopelessromantic wrote: »

I kinda half did ask her out

For a start, "kinda half did" anything is not doing it at all. Either ask her out clearly or don't ask her out at all. Asking someone out is not about offering them a free meal or cinema ticket, its saying "I would really like to spend time with you" and that needs to be the clear underlying message.

In respect of how she's feeling since, she's probably morto that you slept together on a first date (regardless of history) and that she was in a state the next morning. When she asked if you remembered having sex, "yes" wasn't a great answer - if she already remembered, she wanted reassurance that you did too and were glad it happened. Give her that now - tell her you had a great time, you'd like to see her again and you hope she feels the same. Suggest second meeting without drink, or at least a lot less of it. If she goes for that, great, enjoy. If she doesn't, put it down to experience.