Girl wrecking my head - am I overreacting?

LegacyUser

Hi everyone,

I posted about this a while ago. Basically I work with a girl who I like quite a bit. I now realise that it is just an infatuation. Basically she flirts like a demon with me when we work together. She randomly texts me too, but if I text back she 'pulls away' and doesn't reply. She facebook comments on my wall posts frequently too. She flirts with most male men in the workplace too, I think she enjoys the attention.

Basically if I were to initiate a possible flirt, or date suggestion, I get a relatively cool response, whereas if she starts flirting with me, it is quite full-on. This is why I believe that she is playing games with me, or that she just likes the attention.

This week I drew the line, and decided that I had enough of her extreme flirting, and then calling me 'mate' and all that stuff. I deleted her from facebook, and deleted her number from my phone.

Am I over-reacting? I will continue to be professional and courteous in work, but I couldn't handle her hot and cold behaviour.

Thanks for all comments

LegacyUser

I don't think you're overreacting, no. As long as you don't make a major issue of it (in which case it could cause tension at work) you're well within your rights to keep your distance from this girl. You don't owe her friendship and you're entitled to your privacy.

As I said, though, leave it at that. Be courteous and polite now, and (as best you can) don't let it foster resentment.

Chuchoter

In a similar situation, you've done the right thing. Run a mile in the opposite direction.

LegacyUser

Girls like this are never good news!
A girl that genuinely likes you or has feelings of a romantic nature for you, will never do what she is doing. Especially flirting with lots of other men in the workplace.
She is obviously just looking for attention and an ego-boost, and people like this will usually go further if the opportunity presents themselves because they are selfish and greedy.
Stay clear of her, and if she asks for a reason, dont even feel obliged to give her one, just be completely cool and say, whatever, its just how I feel get over it.
Any more attention of any kind will only feed her ego-trip more.
This is coming from a female who has seen other girls do the exact same stuff to other guys and they always end up head-wrecked, hurt and used.

G-Money

The only thing you've done wrong OP is not doing this sooner, but we've all made that mistake, myself included.

You've done the right thing. As others have said, just be cool and uninterested and professional and move on to someone else. If she starts questioning why, just don't respond, especially if she starts the flirting up again.

Good luck.

Tricia1

I concur with other posters- avoid this girl in work if at all possible, if you see her either walk the other way or give her a polite hello and leave it at that. Don't engage with her anymore.

This girl reminds me of a girl in my workplace but for a different reason, always got something 'wrong' with her and craves attention from girls but mainly guys.

I saw her at the top of the corridor the other day and i just turned, walked the opposite direction back to my desk, you need to do the same.

This girl is looking for her ego-boost constantly.

Avoiding her is the best policy.

Taltos

AmIOverreacting wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I posted about this a while ago. Basically I work with a girl who I like quite a bit. I now realise that it is just an infatuation. Basically she flirts like a demon with me when we work together. She randomly texts me too, but if I text back she 'pulls away' and doesn't reply. She facebook comments on my wall posts frequently too. She flirts with most male men in the workplace too, I think she enjoys the attention.

Basically if I were to initiate a possible flirt, or date suggestion, I get a relatively cool response, whereas if she starts flirting with me, it is quite full-on. This is why I believe that she is playing games with me, or that she just likes the attention.

This week I drew the line, and decided that I had enough of her extreme flirting, and then calling me 'mate' and all that stuff. I deleted her from facebook, and deleted her number from my phone.

Am I over-reacting? I will continue to be professional and courteous in work, but I couldn't handle her hot and cold behaviour.

Thanks for all comments

A number of years ago and in another company there was a girl like this and she behaved in a similar fashion with one of the guys from the warehouse.
One day at lunch at the coffee machine he turned and said "how are things gorgeous" - and she let fly with his inappropriate behaviour etc - took him to town - he could say nothing as to her left was the MD...
She then proceeded to lodge a formal complaint against this guy - it was eventually dropped but the stain was there...

Be very careful - after what I saw this is all I would recommend.

LegacyUser

Just an update,

Saw the girl in question since taking all of your advice, and despite her being obviously pretty, I have lost any infatuation with her whatsoever. In saying that, she is like a poison chalice, and I will have to 'ween' myself off of her kinda. I feel more sure about myself since reading your replies, and am enjoying work more. I will always be courteous with her, and professional, but beyond that is a non-runner.

I over heard her in the canteen talking about hopefully meeting a nice bloke in work with a female co-worker, and it's ironic but she could have the pick of a LOT of men. Just thought it was an interesting point.

Anywho, thanks for all advice, and for anyone else, male or female, in this position, and thinks they are being flirted with, for no apparent reason, remember actions speak louder than words, and to heed the replies in this thread.

ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Thanks for all replies!