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Tired of so called friend.....

  • 23-08-2011 11:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Basically I have a group of friends who have all hung around together since early in our school years. We are now all in our late 20's. We have all gone our seperate ways and lived our own lifes, made our own decisions etc, yet we all still keep in contact and meet regularly which is great.

    My issue however is that fact that one person in group annoys me and has for quite a while now. Our outlooks are very different and we regulary end up winding each other up. On the face of it, we appear friends, however there is an under lying tone between us that never goes away and i am now tired of it. I walk away from meeting friends annoyed over something he has said. We are meant to be mates but the values of true friendship do not exist between us.

    I want to remain friends with the rest of the group and dont want to lose them but i am now tired of him and the situation between us. I feel if i choose to spend less time with him, I will also be losing out on my friendship with others in the group, which i really dont want. My friends are very very important to me, I hate that at my age, he is lessoning my enjoyment that i spend with them because of our situation.

    anyone any advice on this matter?


Comments

  • #2
    I love Joan Burton
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 248 ✭✭I love Joan Burton


    My advice is, where theres doubt, there isnt any


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    You're not a herd of cattle. Surely you can meet your friends in small groups or in one-on-one situations if this guy is such a pain? The beauty of growing up and becoming more mature is that you don't have to spend time with people you don't like. It doesn't have to involve some dramatic fall-out and telling of home truths, you simply just avoid spending time with him.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here,

    @MissFluff - i agree, i am beyond having a slanging match or such like, and yes, i try not to spend a lot of time with this person as it is. However, as 'our group' have all gone in seperate directions through growing up, the chances of meeting up become smaller, so when we all do, i look forward to it, but eventually end up getting frustrated by this one person after we have met up.

    I suppose, I dont want to lose contact with other friends, they are important to me, but the majority of the time if I am to meet up with them, even in small numbers, he will be invited along by someone else.


  • #5
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Tbh you just have to suck it up then. If you insist on meeting up with a big group you're just going to have to grin and bear it. Our lives are peppered with people we don't like along the way, be it through work or houseshares or what have you so it's a case of having as little interaction as possible with him. Be polite, do enough to pass yourself and so as not to make it awkward or uncomfortable for the rest of the group, but just stay out of his way where possible.


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