My girlfriend lives too far away!!

fasteddie09

I am just wondering if anyone has gone through this same problem? My girlfriend used to live in the same area as me but has since moved to another county and has put a strain on our relationship as i cant see her as often as i would like!
Anyone going through the same issues and if so any advice would be appreciated

Pearlring

You dont say how long you guys are going out for.
I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years, 2 was very long distance as in 4 hours now its down to 1 hour but it still means we only see each other at weekends, but that is better than what it used be at twice a month.
It is hard work, relationships are hard anyway but with the distance it is annoying, upsetting and you do question the relationship.
But with trust and both of you giving it a good chance its not that bad.
Skype, text, phone, even write a letter - the old fashioned way pen and paper - its very nice to recieve one!
It will be hard but it can be done.

The Cool

I feel your pain OP. Shortly after my OH and I got together, I moved to Spain for a year, and saw him for a weekend or two once every 6 weeks or so. That was tough going. I moved back to Galway a year ago, he lives in Kildare, and while at first it was lovely just to be in the same country, we now feel the distance as well. My advice is to remember that long distance isn't forever and that if it's meant to be then you will end up living near each other / together sooner or later. If your heart is in your relationship, you'll stick it out. In the mean time, lots of phoning and texting!
Just one important point though - do you make your together time count? Myself and my housemate were talking about this recently - her boyfriend lives 5 mins walk away, so they see each other a few times a week, whereas I have my boyfriend over just at weekends. However, because my bf and I are wary of having such little time together, we always make sure to have quality time and date nights and put in lots of effort, unlike my housemate who feels she and her bf do nothing but sit around watching tv. While I was jealous of her having her bf around all the time, she was jealous of me for having so much quality time with my bf. Quantity vs quality. So the grass is not always greener.

johnr1

Hi Op,
I'm from the extreme southwest, and I've gone out with girls in both Connaught and Ulster at different times in my life. One of the relationships lasted a couple of years, but we saw each other pretty much every weekend.

It was hard, you miss being on your own time with friends at weekends, (if the other has driven 4 or 5 hours then the time needs to be spent together).
We both drove well, and both had the income to be able to do it at the time, so that wasn't the issue, but you come to hate Sunday afternoons or Monday mornings leaving at 5 am.
None of this broke us up in the end, it was other stuff, but there needs to be an end of some description in sight down the road, be it one moving or the both.
Sync up ye'er phones with the one network so calls are free, - you can even do this across the border with Vodafone, and if you both feel the same way, it can be done.
It is tough though, especially now that even bus fares are a lot of money to most people.
Good luck Op.