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How To End It Knowing It Makes Sense But It's Still Good?

  • 19-08-2011 7:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I've been going out with a girl for 3 years. We've gotten on amazingly over that time. We're at distance. But lately I think we've tried to develop our lives away from each other, which isn't a bad thing - stuff likes jobs, studies etc...

    Problem is because we're at distance we have become more distant as a result. She's been living in part of the country this summer where I need to get 3 buses and about 4 hours travelling to get to.

    On top of that, I haven't met one person from her family. Her parents aren't open to meeting their childrens' partners 'until they are ready to marry'. No joke!

    She's got a crunch year ahead of her. I may have to go abroad for a bit too. It's really tough as I try to make sure we've things like watching programmes or films to watch at the same time so it's like we're sharing/connecting. But it's not happening now. We just ring each other up and it's pretty mundane to be honest.

    She has made friends this summer from work and goes out with them regularly. Because I haven't been down much I haven't met them. I just feel like I don't know part of her at all. It's really getting to me.

    My gut feeling is it's over. I think I might even be happier without the pressure of it all. But two things are holding me back everytime. One, I have let my friends slip through the last year. I don't have anyone close to me really bar a couple. Two, I really fear I'll regret it and look back lamentfully because it is good when we're together.

    But the logical side of me says do it. I haven't met her family and a lot of her friends. I may have to go further away. It is good when we're together but that's only a few days a month...

    Today was bad inside. I've been going around with a heavy heart for a few days. Haven't been sleeping and it's getting on top of me. I know I will hurt but I really don't know how to do it but I know it needs to be done...


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  • #2
    Intox
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 141 ✭✭Intox


    Key word here has to be 'communication'

    If you find it hard to talk to her about it, perhaps send her a link to this thread or write out an email/letter equivilant. just an idea.

    Can the relationship be strong enough for both of you to make sacrifices in the future to be together?

    ask yourself a few questions before you make a mistake you could regret.

    sorry I couldnt be more help having never been in a long distance relationship.

    good luck


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