I dont know if shes a dramatic?

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

bit of a strange one here but are there people out there who are complete drama queens and liars? I'm with a girl who has said that a lot of truly terrible things have happened her, like really traumatic things and i just find it hard to believe that so many things could happen her, she's only 21. I just find that hard to believe because I myself would always be upfront with people and try not to lie.

LegacyUser

Are there people out there who are drama queens and liars? Oh yes. Should you assume your GF is one of them? Depends.

I was with a girl who was a bit like this. She'd use past problems as an excuse for what in hindsight was some absolute p1ss-take behaviour. (It was when her stories starting contradicting each other that I ran for the hills.) If someone does something wrong and uses their past as an excuse not to take responsibility, then you've every right to be cynical.

Even if she's telling the truth, you're not her counsellor. If these issues are still affecting her, then it's her responsibility to sort them out in her own head, not to lumber you with them.

are there liars out there?? yes, absolutely.
is your girlfriend one? i dont know.

the fact that you disbelieve her is not a good sign.

im presuming you two are not together very long??
imho, you dont tell people intimate secrets about yourself until you know them fairly well!!

is it a bit soon for her to be telling you these things??

gmac102

isshealiar wrote: »

Hi guys,

bit of a strange one here but are there people out there who are complete drama queens and liars? I'm with a girl who has said that a lot of truly terrible things have happened her, like really traumatic things and i just find it hard to believe that so many things could happen her, she's only 21. I just find that hard to believe because I myself would always be upfront with people and try not to lie.

im 30 and lots of truly terrible traumatic things have happened to me over the years, **** happens! im not saying your gf is lying or that she isnt but id be more inclined to look at why your gut is telling you she is.

Karen8

Think about it, why she should lie for you? To get more attention? To feel loved?
To look more interesting? To intrigue you? There's something behind all lies. Find that reason and help her to be upfront to you. One day she will be grateful for all ur efforts.

LegacyUser

Before I had turned 18, I lost 3 close family members in the space of 18months, was sexually abused by my best friends father, my mother was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I was run over by a car.

Is your girlfriend lying? I've no idea.
Does a lot of bad stuff happen to one person? Yes, and who are you to doubt it.

Sounds like there's already trust issues in your relationship. I suggest you work them out or end it, for her sake and yours.