Drunk Kiss Karma

LegacyUser

Ok folks I'll jump right in.

I'm 24 (male), have been with my other half for over 3 years.
We "broke up" on a Monday and she went on the following Friday and got twisted drunk to get over the stress of our problems and ended up getting so wasted that she kissed a stranger.

Now an important note, she told me straight away (the next morning). She proclaimed that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life. she is haunted by the guilt and cheapness of what she did. I am not making excuses or in denial when I say that this is completely out of character for her. it is.

I KNOW this girl love me with all her heart and this was a once of mistake.
some of you might say "yeh well yous were broke up" but she told me that even during our "break up" that we were still together or going to be working it out, which is why she hasnt pulled the "we were on a break" card which she easily could have. I respect that.


NOW here's were the plot thickens.

I am also guilty of a drunk kiss during a previous troubled patch we were going through.
the only difference is I never told her as my thinking has always been that if it was a once off and I am not going to do it again, I will spare her the hurt.

I am not playing the victim in this. my own karma has bit me in the arse and I have to accept that.

I just want advice on where to take it from here. I love this girl and know that she loves me. perhaps she is the bigger person for telling me when I didnt tell her.

If I decide to give it another crack it will be for the long run and I feel there is enough love there for it to want to make me a better person.

I do feel bad for the condition she is in right now considering I did the same. should I just man up and swallow the horrible taste of my own medicine?

thanks in advance

Chris Hansen

KarmaJoe wrote: »

Ok folks I'll jump right in.

I'm 24 (male), have been with my other half for over 3 years.
We "broke up" on a Monday and she went on the following Friday and got twisted drunk to get over the stress of our problems and ended up getting so wasted that she kissed a stranger.

Now an important note, she told me straight away (the next morning). She proclaimed that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life. she is haunted by the guilt and cheapness of what she did. I am not making excuses or in denial when I say that this is completely out of character for her. it is.

I KNOW this girl love me with all her heart and this was a once of mistake.
some of you might say "yeh well yous were broke up" but she told me that even during our "break up" that we were still together or going to be working it out, which is why she hasnt pulled the "we were on a break" card which she easily could have. I respect that.


NOW here's were the plot thickens.

I am also guilty of a drunk kiss during a previous troubled patch we were going through.
the only difference is I never told her as my thinking has always been that if it was a once off and I am not going to do it again, I will spare her the hurt.

I am not playing the victim in this. my own karma has bit me in the arse and I have to accept that.

I just want advice on where to take it from here. I love this girl and know that she loves me. perhaps she is the bigger person for telling me when I didnt tell her.

If I decide to give it another crack it will be for the long run and I feel there is enough love there for it to want to make me a better person.

I do feel bad for the condition she is in right now considering I did the same. should I just man up and swallow the horrible taste of my own medicine?

thanks in advance

It seems your both even, so try and get back together, but, no more excuses, no more flings

fungun

should I just man up and swallow the horrible taste of my own medicine?

In a word, yes.

Best of luck, you sound like your (and your partners) reaction has been reasonable. Makes a pleasant change on here.

Taltos

I am going to go the other way here.
You have both kissed other folk - so clearly you are neither as committed to this relationship as you might like to think.

Maybe it is time just to move on and meet other people. Who knows maybe in a few years you will have both learnt how to deal with issues that do not involve "breaking up" and making out with other folk.

LegacyUser

Thanks alot for the input so far.

I will say that we do argue as every other couple does. but we build on it and see it as healthy. Dont get me wrong we do not argue every day. something along the lines of once a month.

the pros outweigh the cons so I think from both sides it would be harder to call it a day than fight on. just trying to figure the steps to make that happen.

little update: she has bought me a white gold promise ring and said she wants me to accept it no matter what the outcome is.

Thanks again

Intox

Seems like a bump in the road and nothing more. everything will be ok