Marrying in a different parish?!

turnraintocash

We are getting married in a different parish from where we live, so do we need to contact the priest of the parish we are living in or the priest of the parish we are marrying in for our first meeting?

Toots

AFAIK it's the parish you're marrying in, providing that it's their priest that'll be marrying you. Are you bringing your own priest in or using the having the priest from the other parish marry you?

BC

Assuming you want the priest in the different parish to do the ceremony then you contact him to ask him to do it .

For the paperwork - you need to fill out the pre nup enquiry with the priest in your own parish.

turnraintocash

Thanks for the replies.. it is awfully confusing from the sites I was reading!! We are currently living in Dublin, hubbys from Dublin but Im from the country and we are getting married in an entirely different parish to that again. I think the first thing we have to di is contact our registrar, which I am presuming it would be the one Dublin? And give our notice of intent or something and then we have to get letters of freedom from both our original parishes..? I would like our parish priest from home to marry us as he is as sound as a pound and he is a good family friend as well, but if thats not possible I dont mind. Then I have to get in touch with the priest in the parish I am actually getting married in and ask him if he would mind us getting married in his parish and what dates he has available.. am I on the right track here??

Toots

Before you have your meeting with the registrar you need to know the name of the person who is marrying you. I'd ask the family friend if he would be able to do it and then advise him that you need to contact the church where you would like to be married and ask is this ok with them.

Call the church where you want to get married, confirm that they will allow you to use your own priest, and book the date. Then call registry office (AFAIK it can be any one, but ring the Dublin one and explain and they'll tell you if you need to go elsewhere), you need to go in 3 months before the wedding to register your intent and for that you'll need the name of the priest/solemniser, address of the church, ID and your birth cert, and the fee of €150. There's no point calling the registry office until you confirm your date because they'll need to know that.

Ask your priest what letters of freedom does he require. Some priests will ask for letters of freedom from every parish you've lived in, so you might need to get the letters from your original parish and the parish where you live now. You'll also need your confirmation and baptismal certs (copies) and these can't be any older than 6 months at the time of the wedding. Some churches charge a nominal fee for these, others don't.

turnraintocash

Oh my god thank you that is so helpful!! I will do that. Il let you know how I get on xxx thanks again!!