would this bother you

karma2010

i love my boyf very much been together two years now and just moved into together.... we had a few issues in the past with his ex and it took its toll but we moved on and thanfully so did she...

i was on my boyfriends laptop and was moving pics onto a cd when i went to get a cd out of stack of blank cds the one i picked seemed to already have something on it went into look at the contents and it was videos and pics (of a private kind)of him and his ex(not the ex we had trouble with the one before hand)

is this okay.... i know he looks at porn and thats fine its just porn doesnt bother me... should i be freaked that he kept these???

Vicxas

See this is a toughy, if he still uses the cd then its a problem.


I dont think its a big issue, but id keep an eye on it.

I had some pics of my ex that i forgot about and my missus asked me to delete them, if he doesnt use it then he wont mind

karma2010

see there is other stuff on the cd like photos of family holidays etc so just seems like stuff he threw on there like loads of old files... i think i will just keep an eye out and if he looks at the cd then i will say it

thanks a mill

Neyite

I would tell him like sunflower suggest.

I would also go one step further and ask that he destroy all copies out of respect for this girl.

Picures and video like these, in my opinion should have a shelf life only as long as that trusting relationship is there. Once its over, they should be deleted out of respect for both partners.

dundalkfc10

Erm as a fella speaking here, that sounds very dodgy, surely he knows he has it and IMO should have deleted it as soon as they ended

Miss Fluff

Agreed. Rather than wind yourself up in knots about this and taint everything with suspicion and paranoia, just say it to him that you found it and that him still having it makes you uncomfortable and can he delete it.

curlzy

Hey OP,

If I found a cd of pics and videos of my bf with his ex? Would that bother me? Of course it would bloody bother me!!!! Come on now, are people really willing to accept this type of crap in a relationship nowadays? A) He should have deleted it as soon as they broke up, it's underhanded to keep that kinda thing after a relationship is over and WTF, he has a girlfriend, outta respect for you he should have deleted it if A) didn't bother him. Tell him you saw it and see what he says but I've got to tell if it was me I'd be reading him the riot act.

Best of luck.

karma2010

hi everyone OP here, thanks for the replies and i di agree with you it is dodgy .... but i brough it up on friday night and he went green and couldnt apologise enough he completely forgot about it and immebiately broke the cd and threw it away ... i did question him why he had kept it so long but he insisted when he moved the last time it was just thrown into a pile of stuff he was meant to sort but never did so crisis adverted thanks to all who took the time to reply!

sweetiee

Glad you got it sorted OP, but if it were me I'd still keep a close eye on his PC I would be wondering where the original recording is.

But that's just me.

Dravokivich

sunflower27 wrote: »

Just out of curiosity, did he explain how in a stack of blank CDs that particular one was there? If it had been thrown in a box with a load of other CDs then why is it in a pile of unused ones on its own? Am a bit confused how that happened.

If he's anyway as organised as me, he probably just burnt a CD and threw it back on top of the stack afterwards because there was no case or sleeve to put it in.

karma2010

Hi op again.... it was just the case that he just threw it back on the stack there was a couple mixed in with blank cds some he marked some he hadnt just out of laziness and being forgetful nothing sinister on the rest but all very old stuff like old family photos etc.... and as with his laptop mine is broke at the moment so im always on his and we decided a long time ago to be open with each other so i have access to any email account facebook etc and vica versa he can see all mine not that we need to but we try to keep nothing hidden

thanks again

x Purple Pawprints x

This would definitely bother me a lot. But seeing as you got it sorted and it actually sounds like it was a genuine mistake there's no real need for this reply lol. Glad you got it all sorted out OP, it was better than months of wondering and worrying.