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Another Break Up Thread

  • 16-08-2011 9:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Long story short really, She broke up with me, didn't treat her well but never really realised it at the time till now obviously.

    Had a lot of issues i never dealt with and always seemed to take it out on her, i love this girl and i'd give my life for here ( i know we all say that but i mean it )

    Tried the usual i'll change and it got to a point where i couldnt handle it no more where i found my self trying to do the Harming Myself routine but we wont get into that.

    But she still says she wants time to make her happy. I obviously the first few days tried to resist not contacting but being the sucker i am kept texting and begging, mistake i know. i said id get the help i needed and have been going to therapy to sort my shít out but still not interested.

    I probably wont get her back and it kills me, shes off being happy in such a short time and it seems while im here depressed and upset, shes having a great time and seems like she doesnt care. myself to blame i guess.

    i dont want to but How do i get over it? can i ever get her back? she says she loves me still and doesnt want to be with anyone right now just wants to look after her own intrests. im trying the no contact thing now but i keep thinking the worst and that ill never see her again.


    I dont even know what im saying now sorry, so sad. i'm sure someone here will know what im asking.


Comments

  • #2
    butterfly84
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 33 ✭butterfly84


    The best thing you can do is to prove that you can sort out whatever issues you are having.This may take some time for her to believe you.She obviously doesnt want to go back to you thinking that nothing has changed and then go though all this again at a later stage.

    Do what you can to show her you are serious about changing your behaviour but also give her the space she says she needs right now.

    I hope it works out for you but even if it doesnt,use this as an opportunity to work out your issues for yourself.It is terrible that it has taken losing your gf to give you the realisation things needed to change,you have learned a tough lesson . . . .but try to take the positives from it by becoming the person you want to be.Who knows . . maybe one day you get another chance and no way you'll be messing it up again!

    Best of luck


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