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LegacyUser

Hello!

I don't use this a lot but need some advice, I feel really awful.
A friend (male) and me were messing about taking pictures and I had a top on and just my knickers. He took a few pictures and we were having a laugh. I went to take a shower and he posted them on my facebook which was logged in. I didn't know until a few minutes later and took them down immediately.
However, some of the lads I know from college saved them from facebook and are now passing them around via facebook to each other. I feel so ill at this and there is nothing i can do, I haven't seen them but have been told by people that they saw them. I can't believe this has happened. On top of this I slept with a lad from college that I liked a few months back and am getting slagged about it too, I know I've dug my own hole and am ill at the thought of facing people again when I go back to college. I don't know what to do

Alopex

well he's not a friend anyway. damage done unfortunately. it will blow over though - you weren't naked and think of all the girls who put pics of themselves in bikinis online.

the sleeping with a guy you like . . . don't know why you're being slagged off. maybe people see you are easy to get at. most people don't get slagged off for that

@rti-shm@rti

wheredowegonow wrote: »

Hello!

A friend (male) and me were messing about taking pictures

I'm afraid OP the first step would be to get rid of this 'friend' as he's definitely not one to you. Posting that type of picture without your permission albeit for only a few minutes is the height of disrespect and I would be cutting him off immediately.

Unfortunately there's nothing you can really do about these pictures being out there. Once they go on FB, they become the property of FB as far as I know. You've just had to learn a lesson the hard way unfortunately - don't allow yourself to be photographed like this. Once a photo is taken, although you may trust the taker implicitly, you have no control over it. Say it was taken on a boyfriends phone. You'd trust him completely, what happens though if his phone gets stolen or his friends go snooping and steal them.

Hold your head high and ignore the comments. When people see you won't rise to the bait or you don't really care they'll let it go. There's no fun taking the p*ss when someone is totally unflappable. You've done nothing wrong besides being a bit naive. So what you slept with a guy you liked in college. You're certainly not the first.

Half the time we think EVERYONE is talking about us. Most of the time EVERYONE is so worried about themselves you'll be the last thing on their minds.

trio

You can (I believe) untag your name from photos of you on other peoples pages.

It doesn't remove the pic, but it means people can't find them when searching your name or looking at "Photos Of X" on your Profile Page.

Sooopie

OP, so sorry to hear that - but trust me, it'll all blow over and be forgotten about in a matter of weeks - boys are childish.

And as for your mate, I'd be having words, that was not a nice thing he did.

Feel better soon

kylith

The best thing to do is to 'own' the pictures. If people say they've seen them say something like 'Didn't I look fantastic?' People will only keep talking about them if they think that you're embarassed.

Take the same tactic with the slagging over sleeping with the guy and it will soon blow over.

Wompa1

This is not meant to be cruel but it sounds like you need to rethink who your friends are. You say you slept with a guy from college and are getting slagged about it. It sounds like there's quite a few people in your circle that don't show you much respect. Time to reassess.

This does not apply to all girls but there's many that claim to be just like on of the lads when in actual fact they are naive and blind to the fact they are not seen as just one of the lads and are more of a novelty..good luck OP