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  • 16-08-2011 12:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just looking for some perspective here!

    lately i got back in contact with a guy i was friends with years ago. we had a one night stand back in the day and used to text a little bit but there was never any question about it getting serious, it was what it was. we lost touch as we got older and friends drifted apart and life moved on.

    so anyways we are back in touch after a random night out. i usually leave it up to him to make contact as i didnt want him to think i was chasing him! he texts me 3 - 4 nights a week. saying that every now and again i will contact him first just so he doesnt feel like he's making all the effort.

    we have only been together once in about the 9 months that we are back in touch. we both travel a lot which i can see would be one reason that it would be hard to see each other. we make plans to meet and things always get in the way. on more than 1 occasion i have gotten pissed off with the whole thing and told him so. he graciously lets me cool down and texts the following day :)

    now and again ill get a text message like really late at night, sometimes feels like a booty call but hes never suggested doing anything and sometimes seems surprised if i am awake and i text him back.

    this has been going on for 9 months i reckon. could anybody indulge me with some insight as to what may be going on with this guy?

    ok best fill in a few holes... this guy is quite shy and we do get on well but he used to be known as a player and a bit of a cheat (hoping hes grown outta that!) also i made the mistake one drunken night of telling him how i feel, i do fancy him a lot even though i never see him! saying that he took it quite well saying something like its to good to know.

    any suggestions as at this point im well and truely confused as to whats going on here?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Communication. Or lack of, that's the problem.

    Stop sending stupid text messages, and pick up the phone and call him. One can only say so much in a SMS and it can be easily misunderstood.

    Talk to him.

    And use texts just for confirming little details like "I'm on my way, be there in 10 minutes"

    Text should never be used for conversations.


  • #3
    tyview
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 210 ✭✭tyview


    Thats a hard one to figure out. You say he's shy but I've never met a shy 'Player' or cheat? It kinda sounds like hes with someone else - always cancels plans to meet, texts late at night

    If he's not and you want to be with him, tell him out straight. Bite the bullet and then move on either with him or without. What have you got to lose?


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