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  • 14-08-2011 11:18am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok I've been see my GF for just over 1 year now, Things at the start were going ok but She has been on anti depressants for over 10 years and tried to go off them a few months ago and got very depressed again. She is back on them again and trying to lower the doseage again. Im afraid what will happen this time again. It even getting me down now and I cant stop worrying :(

    Also she had a previous relationship with ex partner and they have a shared mortgage and this kinda bugs me also. She has very little savings and

    She is a lovely girl, but I getting stressed worrying about her money issues the depression and where the future will take us :(


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  • #2
    Baked.noodle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,014 ✭✭✭Baked.noodle


    Depression is challenging for both the depressed and the significant other. I lived with a women who suffered from depression and it was something that frequently emerged in our relationship. She hated talking medication; yet fell more depressed without it. To be honest she braved it well and I accepted her for who she was because I loved her. If you love this woman and you have a good idea of what it means to be with her, you need to accept her warts and all. If you don’t love her being with her may be more than you are willing or able to cope with. She went off them before and it didn't work; if reducing the meds doesn't go well this time you can point this out to her the next time she thinks about changing her approach to her illness. She should take what you say into consideration but you need to support her. With regard to the other issue, she had a life before she met you so give her a brake and be grateful it’s nothing too serious, just a mortgage with an ex.


  • #3
    WANTStoWORK
    Closed Accounts Posts: 100 ✭✭WANTStoWORK


    Half the country are on medication for depression of some sort, and I would hazzard a guess that the other half should be on some!!!, It a few pills a day helps to lift her mood then whats wrong with that, it has been said that medication for depression is hard enough to come off (not a good idea to do it yourself). I wouldn't worry too much about it. However money worries can cause a lot of pressure for anybody, perhaps you should advise her to contact her local MABS office, believe me when I tell you they are very supportive. Best of luck.


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