Lady Situation

busyliving

Hey all,

Firstly I'm story if this is the incorrect forum, secondly let me tell you a story:D

So its all starts 5 months ago, I met a girl on a night out and we talk all night in the club and after the club outside, until very late in the morning until I walked her to a taxi and we head our separate ways...

But then we met up the next weekend, just happen to be in the same place at the same time, and again we get talking like before, but I go back to hers and we get down to business...

But while all this was happening I was enjoying my last few weeks in Ireland before I left for Australia, she knew I was leaving for Australia before we hooked up...

We exchange texts before I leave for Australia and she wished me well and all that.

So off to Australia I go, we keep in touch via Facebook and all that.

So I come home from Australia, and on my return I didn't tell her I was coming home, in fact I didn't telly many people, but after being home for over a month I'm out catching up with friends and she is there...

We talk for ages and its great, but then i was over at a mates for a few drinks and she is there and we talk to each other most of the night and its great...

So I walk her to her taxi, when she is leaving because she had work in the morning, and as she leaves she is like "oh I'll talk to you soon"...And then she follows it with, we should totally get together to watch Frasier (this happens to be one of our favourite shows and we were talking about during the night)

...Now much of my friends are like, she is clearly inviting me over because she likes me and there is more reasons than watching Frasier.

...So we've been texting ever since and we have kinda arranged to meet up next weekish to watch some Frasier.

But I don't know if its just a kinda friend thing or if its more that she likes me and its her way of being subtly...

Sorry, but I'm so bad with women, well reading what they mean and stuff:o

minidazzler

Yeah, her intentions probably have very very little to do with the TV show. She's into you.

LegacyUser

I'd disagree completely.

I think you're in the friend zone with her.

Wompa1

she's into you. similar situation to myself and my current girl. she wanted to come over to watch The IT Crowd...good luck!

Lon Dubh

I would say there is a good chance she is interested, but maybe too shy to ask you out on a "real" date so tried this instead, to try to get to know you better but also to see if you also might be interested.

I did something like this once to someone who was too thick to see what I was at, so he refused (and so I thought he was not interested) but he asked me out months later He had not taken the hint at all and didn't know whether I would say yes or no, and I thought I had embarrased myself a bit by being too forward. :rolleyes:

busyliving

Cheers for all the help fello's...

So it looks like I'm calling over tomorrow evening...

Wish me luck:D

WANTStoWORK

Well at this stage you either sunk the pink this evening or ya didn't!, seriously it would appear that this gal really likes you and apart from hitting you on the back of the head and dragging you to her cave she is sending all the right signals, just go with the flow, G'luck!!!

busyliving

Hey all,

So I went over to her house and we hung out for the best part of 6 hours...just chatting and watching a little Frasier...but nothing happened.

So she was dropping me home and before I got out of the car, I just went in for the kiss and we made out a bit(I decided I had to act and if I made an arse of myself I was already home:D).

So later on I went out to meet her for a few drinks, and we end up back at hers and a stay over the night, I didn't go the whole way, but we did nearly everything else like:cool:

So we have kinda arranged to do something next weeks, probably thinking of cinema...

So now I have another query...

How often should I be texting her, we have been texting quite and bit, but it seems we are texting every second day now...now that's not an issue, but I don't want her to think I'm not interested in her, or that I'm way too needy...

If ye haven't noticed already I'm, fair ****e with the ladies...well it doesn't help that I'm crazy about this girl and that in itself scares the ****e outta me

Cheers in advance:)

I am a friend

You seem to be doing very well so I would not change anything enjoy

busyliving

Ok, so I text her on Monday to discuss our plans for our date...

She tells me, she may not be able to make because of work, and our texting gets a little slow and we finish up texting...

now we haven't text since then, I decided to give her a little space and room and try not to come across needy/too eager...

So where do I stand, if i don't hear anything from her tonday?

Is she trying to protect herself and not come across too strong? or Is she just not that into me

P.S i've already told ye all, I'm useless with women:o

busyliving

***Bump:)***

LegacyUser

It seems to be going well - she may have just been busy, as she said. Drop her a line with something innocuous; enquirie about her week or what's up for the weekend. Don't over-analyse it!

LC2010HIS

Youre right about the texting/neediness situation. Sometimes it comes across as needy even when the person isnt..The constant back and forth. Give urself a bitta mystery and "miss" a text or two.
Or better yet, leave the texting for days and :

Call her

busyliving

Cheers for the feedback...

So Monday was the last day we spoke, and its Friday now...

So do I wait and see if she texts me after work, or do I text her?

LittleBook

I have a question ... do you want to text her? Do you want to see her again?

There's no way anyone here can guess what's going through her mind, one person could say "go for it" and another could say "ease off". She could be completely uninterested or she could be sitting there going "if he was into me, he'd have gotten in touch" ... the possibilities are endless

So you have to do what feels right to you. If you want to see her this weekend, call her suggesting something and take it from there. If she's not available because of work just say "ah not to worry, gimme a call if you want to do something next week". And leave it with her.

I know texting is easier, particularly if you're a little shy. But if you want to know what's going on with her, you'll get a better feel for the situation if you actually speak to her.

Good luck!

busyliving

LittleBook wrote: »

I have a question ... do you want to text her? Do you want to see her again?

There's no way anyone here can guess what's going through her mind, one person could say "go for it" and another could say "ease off". She could be completely uninterested or she could be sitting there going "if he was into me, he'd have gotten in touch" ... the possibilities are endless

So you have to do what feels right to you. If you want to see her this weekend, call her suggesting something and take it from there. If she's not available because of work just say "ah not to worry, gimme a call if you want to do something next week". And leave it with her.

I know texting is easier, particularly if you're a little shy. But if you want to know what's going on with her, you'll get a better feel for the situation if you actually speak to her.

Good luck!

Yes I do want to see her again, but I'd want to come across as too needy