wedding abroad ,who to invite ?

gucciali

Hi all , we're thinking about having our wedding in Malta , maybe two years time , question is who do you invite abroad ? is it just immediate family ? and have a party when you get back and invite aunts, uncles and cousins then ? I have an awful ot of aunts uncles and cousins ,some of which i'd be close to , others not , not sure what to do , maybe keep it simple with just family has anyone had a wedding abroad and if so what did you do , I'd love to hear any advice thanks

deman

I had a wedding abroad as my wife isn't Irish. I invited immediate family and 2 closest friends and that was it. We had a small party then in Ireland a few weeks later for the extended family.

gucciali

Hi deman , thanks for your reply yes i was thinking maybe family and friends as i'm not able for all the stress of arranging a wedding as in people being offended if you don't invite them ! that's why we want
to go abroad maybe more relaxed !

do you mind me asking , did you find it a lot simpler to arrange with just inviting family ?

bungaro79

was in the same boat as you gucciali, we ended up just inviting the aunts and uncles as well as close friends and family. even though if we had invited our cousins most probably wouldn't have come but we thought it was the fairest thing to do. obviously some people got the hump but thats going to happen no matter what ye decide on! we had a party when we came back for everyone else and if they came they came but i think some felt like it was being like invited to an afters which was fair enough. we did stress that we wanted no presents from anyone and had alot of free grub at the party so it was good craic regardless!!
one bit of advice i'd give you is to get the invites out early to give people plenty of notice if they need to book time off and to sort out flights but also so that word gets out that the invites are out to those who are going. we had a couple of assumers who we had to put straight in as nice a way as possible!

gucciali

thanks bungaro, were thinking bout malta , do you mind me asking where you got married ?:) I have about 15 married Aunts living abroad so there partners would make 30 then their kids( my cousins ) maybe 50 in all , maybe one or two Aunts I would be close to maybe cousins aswell , so if I was to invite one Aunt would I have to invite them all , I know half probably wouldn't go anyway , that's what leads me to thinking just to keep it simple with immediate family , the stress is starting already :rolleyes::)

toadfly

Hi OP I was at a wedding in Malta 2 years ago, it was my boyfriends cousins wedding and we went for a week. We knew about it well in advance so we made that our holiday for that year. Think there was about 80 people there most stayed for the full week or 10 days.

One thing I would say if you are having it abroad make it clear that you don't expect a present as it's so expensive for everyone to go. We spent a fortune and still felt we had to give a cash present that we couldn't afford.

bungaro79

we got married in portugal gucciali. its up to you really who you invite, personally for a wedding abroad i wouldn't invite kids (saying that neither of us has nieces or nephews). we don't have as many aunts/uncles as ye but most did come. you might be better off sticking to just immediate family so, get it out early and you won't feel as stressed once its out there!! its not worth getting stressed about what others think, have your party when you come home and if they don't come then bollcks to them!