Overcoming sexual abuse

LegacyUser

I was abused & raped by a family member in my early teens while babysitting his children.
I've kept it to myself until recently, when I couldn't take the stress & anxiety anymore.
I've been put on meds & am going through councelling.
I just found out that he came clean with his family about what he did to me (They live in a different country) His wife & children kicked him out of the house & I'm sure they are going through hell.
Anyway, I mentioned this to my therapist & since I have a close relationship with his children, she was concerned of their wellbeing & asked if I would pass on information of therapists in their area. Yesterday, I got in the post, details of therapists for male sexual abusers in their country!! WTF seriously!!?? Can you believe she sent me this? I can't. I'm actually quite annoyed & completely disgusted she would even think I would be interested in helping him after what he did to me.
I'm looking for advise on what to say to her over this. I feel she's crossed over a line giving me this.
What do you think?

Baked.noodle

This would seem to be an unintentional blunder, that is very serious. For your own sake I think you should see it in an impersonal light. This was not done to upset you, it is a mistake. Try to focus on what is important and try not to upset yourself any more than you need to be. Contact the sender by letter and explain the blunder. Take care.

Sorry for not being more understanding.

girlonfire

Hi OP,

I believe you've every right to be annoyed over this. In my own opinion, your therapist crossed boundaries there. While I understand where she is coming from, she behaved in a very unprofessional way.
It is not up to you to look after anyone else in this but yourself. You've been through such a traumatic thing and it's difficult and terrifying trying to come to terms with this, let alone trying to look after others.
I'm sure his wife (or ex as it may be) is capable of looking after the needs of her own children and hopefully she'll organise counselling for them. Again, this is not your responsibility.
I think you should be completely honest with your therapist. Tell her how it made you feel and hopefully you'll be able to work through that and build on the relationship.
She has behaved unprofessionally and you need to discuss your concerns/feelings about this.
Aside from that, I wish you luck OP. It's not easy dealing with something so traumatic so fair play. You're obviously very courageous. Take care.

Pretty_Pistol

You've every right to be annoyed. That is not acceptable. You should be the therapists first priority. If you gave her permission to pass on help for the wife/children fine but she definitely should not be helping out your abuser. You should discuss your feelings with them at your next appointment. I'm sure you feel betrayed. If you are not satisfied with the answer they give then try to move councellors.

dafunk

I am shocked by that.

Personally I would change therapists and make a complaint to a higher body.