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The usual story, I'm in love with my friend.

  • 11-08-2011 11:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm going into my last year of school and I love my friend. I don't know what she wants, she's always holding hands with me/general cuddling but we haven't kissed. She knows I'm gay, she's questioning and I don't know what to do anymore. She used to make me so happy to see her but now its like every time we meet I feel like I'm breaking. I don't even know if I want to be in a relationship with her because being around her just seems to hurt so much but at the same time, the thought of going into different universities next year and barely seeing eachother terrifies me. I just really don't want to be alone and if she goes I have no-one. What do you do when the only person you care about hurts to be around when she isn't even doing anything? Do you tell her your feelings? Leave it? I just can't do it anymore and I don't know what I'm supposed to do to fix it. :(


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  • #2
    Aishae
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    ereforda wrote: »
    I'm going into my last year of school and I love my friend. I don't know what she wants, she's always holding hands with me/general cuddling but we haven't kissed. She knows I'm gay, she's questioning and I don't know what to do anymore. She used to make me so happy to see her but now its like every time we meet I feel like I'm breaking. I don't even know if I want to be in a relationship with her because being around her just seems to hurt so much but at the same time, the thought of going into different universities next year and barely seeing eachother terrifies me. I just really don't want to be alone and if she goes I have no-one. What do you do when the only person you care about hurts to be around when she isn't even doing anything? Do you tell her your feelings? Leave it? I just can't do it anymore and I don't know what I'm supposed to do to fix it. :(

    It looks like the only thing you can do is talk to her - especially if you're both off to different uni's. You don't have to tell her exactly how you feel but you could tell her you find all the cuddling and hand holding confusing. Ask is there more than just friendship behind it on her part maybe.

    I think this is just one of those situations where you will have to either confront it or let her go. You might naturally drift apart when you head to uni and you both meet new people. Or maybe you won't if you both made an effort to stay friends.

    It's always a confusing time towards the end of school. You all go different ways, the routine of the last 6-12 years is going to end. But you'll find a new routine.


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