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Dealing with a death where you did not have a good relationship with the deceased.

CathyMoran · 2011-08-11 19:38:29

My mother died over a month ago and we never had a good relationship. She got ill several years ago but our relationship did not improve. Even still, I am finding it hard as I miss the idea of having a mother but not her (she was physically and mentally abusive). I never got closure on the abuse, she never explained it,…

11-08-2011 08:38PM

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CathyMoran

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My mother died over a month ago and we never had a good relationship. She got ill several years ago but our relationship did not improve. Even still, I am finding it hard as I miss the idea of having a mother but not her (she was physically and mentally abusive). I never got closure on the abuse, she never explained it, not that I think that abuse can ever be explained but I would have liked her to say sorry.

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#2 11-08-2011 11:13PM

coolcat63

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This may sound strange but I would suggest writing your mother a letter; telling her all you were unable to say in life, all the feelings you have kept buried. Keep the letter for a while then bury or burn it. This is what I intend to do when my adopted mother dies.

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